I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad

Friday, June 11th, 2010

  Better use for a Great Wall of China cannon 

It has been such a whirlwind lately that Ive just about lost my voice, so forgive me for not posting sooner. After seeing Tears for Fears in Manila & visiting the Great Wall of China en route to the States, we did a 3 week tour of the South, seeing family & friends in Georgia, S. & N. Carolina, I did my FIRST Teacher Training EVER in San Diego & now, were home in LA for the summer. Boy, do I need a breather!

I hope to see many of you in my LIVE workshops this summer in LA, including the upcoming Releasing Intensive on Saturday, June 26th.

People often ask me about personal ads as though getting it right is the Holy Grail. Read on to find out my response.

I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad


I read the funniest blog the other day, complaining about the high octane personal ads that sound exhausting. The writer just wanted to go lie down.

This brings to mind a false assumption many believe about dating. Compatibility is a fake idea. Seriously! Studies show over & over that what people say they want and what they actually want are two different things. There is more of a chemistry/soul recognition happening than someone who looks good on paper in each instance.

So, take the pressure off of getting your personal ad perfect or ticking off a list of qualities with each prospective partner. Better to just be in a good mood while writing your ad and abandon loading it up with all your activities.

And as far as dating goes, look for an initial connection. It doesn’t have to be complete excitement at first, because for some chemistry opens up gradually. But you have to have some attraction, which is an indicator there may be something there.

Free Teleseminar

On Monday, June 14th, Im doing a rare, free teleseminar called LETTING GO: A Primer on Release. Its a great way to start out the summer -- getting released so you can dive fully into summer fun. To find out more & sign up (hundreds signed up within the first two hours!), follow this link: http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#1350

Talk to you soon, and I hope to see you while Im in the U.S. this summer!

lots of love,
Kathryn

PS: The Releasing Intensive is projected to sell out next week due to limited attendance. If you have major release issues or find yourself in a lot of pain, go ahead & reserve your spot NOW here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events#1400

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Psychic Ability When To Use It

By Eva Daniels

Your psychic gifts have power. Many people find out that they are clairvoyant as children. Perhaps they were sitting there thinking about the spiritual world and then all of a sudden, something supernatural happened to them. It is important to understand that our spiritual energy has a lot to do with getting ahead.

A psychic can often see into a persons life in different ways. Most people today want to know about their health and spiritual growth. Over time, you can point them in the right direction. You can have them believe that their own sixth sense can help them as well. When you begin giving people free psychic readings, you actually begin learning more about yourself.

Many people like to express their gifts by using tarot cards or astrology charts. It is said that when you combine clairvoyance with these types of spiritual tools, you get accurate information. It is important to understand that getting information for people is often difficult.

Learning how to use your abilities takes time. Often, friends help us to learn when we are on target with our gifts. Psychic gifts often give us understanding into a persons destiny. People often feel lost when they are working with psychics. This is for several different reasons. For starters, people often want to feel like their life is getting better. When you look into your past, you should see something that makes you feel happy and proud. Look at your own life and try to see what always worked out best for you.

Psychics often have a creative way of teaching us more about ourselves. Our lives matter because we come to terms with ourselves and learn more about the future. We often look back on our lives and see how much we have changed. It is good to keep a journal of your psychic experiences. Write down when a prophetic word has come to pass or some other paranormal event.

People often say that building a career in metaphysics is tough. I would have to agree. There are a lot of psychics out there that are fake and ruin it for the spiritual advisers that truly had a gift. Today, deception is at an all-time high. Many people use their psychic gifts to make money. Others use them to fulfill their life long calling.

Take your time when practicing your psychic abilities. If you rush into using them, then you will surely not master them. People that take years to develop their sixth sense can actually see into the past, present and future for others. It is always a miracle to watch someone growing into their true inner sense. People tend to develop certain powers when it comes to using their gifts.

Not everyone is strong enough to use their abilities. It is important to keep in mind that a reading gift is a calling. Not everyone is called to be prophetic. Some people are better at teaching or doing some other trade. The best place to start learning more about your gifts is by trying to use what you believe to be your gift to begin with. Eventually, the truth about your gifts will come into full blossom.

About the Author:

Our site provides free psychic readings for people all over the United States. We get hundreds of visitors each year asking us for a reading on their romantic life. We believe that a psychic reading should you give spiritual insights into your personal life. You should be able to feel a connection with the spiritual United States that you have never felt before. It is important to be in touch with spirit.

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Dont Believe Me Just Watch!!

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Dont Believe Me, Just Watch!

Q: Kathryn, it is super hard to stay positive when all my friends keep shooting down my hopes for love. Theyre just so negative. And say my prospects are slim.

They get mad that I wont settle. And think I shouldnt hope for much.

How can I deal with this? So far, I get discouraged more and more of the time.

A: Let me tell you a story that will help.

Edie is one of my coaches and first discovered my work going through a divorce.

She was not exactly a spring chicken and was very fearful about finding love.

She did not want to grow old alone and yet her experience of love had been hurtful so she was scared about recreating that.

Friends and family told her to set her bar low, that at her age, she couldnt expect much.

This unthinking words made her even more fearful. After her painful divorce, she did not want to go through any more.

This is not uncommon.

When youre single, every fear that you wont find love or will have to settle will come up.

When I was single, I remember some of the hurtful things people told me:

"At your age, dont expect a good looking guy."

"All guys are having sex. Youll never find someone who is not involved, do dont even expect it."

I remember having to distance myself from one negative friend. It was just too hard when I was already feeling so vulnerable.

Edie went through the same gauntlet of naysaying and doubt.

Its something she and I had to overcome.

She healed from her past, and became strong, increasingly immune to her own fears and the negativity of others.

So to answer your question, the best way to deal with naysayers is the following:

1) Become increasingly immune to others who are negative

2) Keep hope in your heart and be careful about who you share your dreams with

3) Stay hopeful. Keep the faith

4) Do work that will back you up and fight against the deluge of naysaying you may encounter

5) Dont settle but keep your standard high

6) Build yourself up and remember you are a catch.

Edie and I worked on this together, and then, she met John. Not only is he an educated, handsome man but he is kind and adores her.

After dating for about a year, he proposed on Christmas Eve. In her 60s, Edie has experienced more romance than she could ever have dreamed of.
The newly married Edie & John

At their wedding, John thanked me several times for my support of him and their relationship.

He is truly in love with Edie and feels like he won the jackpot. She does, too. Everyone at the wedding was moved by their love.

At the reception, we all laughed when the song "Uptown Funk" was played. The chorus says:

"Dont believe me, just watch"

It was Edies victory dance -- that despite the naysaying, she triumphed and got what she wanted.

I hope youll vow to dance that same dance of triumph at your own wedding. You can!

All it takes it developing your faith that yes, you, too, can find love. Add to that ignoring the naysayers and doing some opening to love.

And you, too, will be singing "Dont believe me, just watch!" at your own nuptials.

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Never had a long term relationship

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This weeks Q & A is from someone who has had trouble having any lasting relationships at all.




Q: Kathryn, the longest relationship I ever had was just a few months. And that was in my 20s. Now Im turning 40, and its been a long time since Ive had a relationship that lasts longer than 6 weeks.

What is wrong with me?! Im losing faith that Ill ever find someone, and yet, I want a husband and children while I still have a chance at that. Is there any hope for me?

A: You have every hope for love! I have a client getting married in a few weeks who came to me with your exact issue. Walking her beyond her pattern was what changed everything for her.

If I were working with you, heres how we would solve this issue for you.

1. Wed look into your past and see if you are hanging on to old trauma or if you have been equating love with hurt. Wed look for whatever your block is and treat it.

2. We would work to line you up with love completely. I suspect you have a fear or misconception that has you torn about love. We need to let go of anything that is in conflict within. Things like this can hold love away.

3. I would make SURE you know youre lovable and worthy of a lasting love.

4. Finally, we would lay in some new patterns for you -- of thinking, of behavior in connecting with attractive people and of dealing with the inevitable bumps in the road as you date.

This protocol has been super effective in my work. Its responsible for my ever-expanding wall of weddings.

Much of it you can do yourself. But many times, we have a blind spot, which keeps us in a frustrating pattern like yours. What can help is either a love coach or possibly my Soulmate Bootcamp -- a program that has worked with many holdouts, who have almost give up on love.

Its on sale next week for our birthday sale, so stay tuned for that and take a look at it in the meantime.

I support you in finding love. You can and you will!

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How to get your ex back

At long last (and I know youve been asking for a while), weve released the 5th and final video in my Breakup Recovery series just today.

This one is called "How to Get Your Ex Back" and you can find it here:

We have this weird phenomenon of peoples former flames coming back when they do my release process. 

Yes, you can get them back, but should you? 

Be warned that only 10% of the time does it STICK.

Enjoy!

love,
Kathryn

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And Just Like That Everything Changes

By Evan Sanders

It never ceases to amaze me just how everything can change and yet things are entirely the same.

I guess what Im talking about here is how quickly the world that lives in your mind can change. It can go from focusing so much on one thing...and then...SNAP...it changes to something else completely.

And whatever was taking up all the space in your mind before exits quickly. It disappears as if it was never there before. Something that was causing you so much pain originally no longer has its roots in your mind.

As much as I couldnt grasp this when I was younger, I really do believe in good timing. I believe this now because of how many things I have seen changed when you give it some time and space.

I used to think that you could just apply a ton of effort and things would happen because you wanted it to happen. Unfortunately, the world doesnt really work that way. The world works a lot more fluidly and you have to be willing to experience the ebbs and flows of life.

But if you push at the right time, theres hardly any effort involved.

This has been running through my mind and changing the way Ive been doing things. It makes me understand patience very well. It makes me understand, really, that patience is one of the marks of someone who truly is showing up in the world as how it actually is. When you are impatient, you are trying to make things happen forcibly...

Thats the path to true happiness. Thats a path to deep inner peace.

Patience and trust. Patience and trust are things that can guide you all the way to the end.

There have been things that have happened in my life lately that has started to put new fine and blood into me. Theyve given me the energy to pick things back up and move forward again.

In time, all things change for the better. In time, you can see what this universe has planned for you.

About the Author:

Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Happy Life Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/happy-life-quotes/ or these Short Life Quotes http://thewordsofencouragement.com/short-life-quotes/ to get some motivation to move forward!

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Breaking a Bad Dating Pattern

If you are ready for love and need to ditch an old dating pattern, now is a perfect time to set that intention.

If you have had a bad dating pattern – like going for unavailable or hurtful people, having chemistry with those who are bad for you or being closed due to past hurt – you are not alone. I have worked with thousands of people with similar patterns, and it has been gratifying to watch them dissolve unproductive patterns to date for their soulmate.

There is a way to shift your preferences and get rid of sabotaging dating habits once & for all.

1. See reality and know you can do SO much better. If someone isn’t completely in to you, admit it. If someone pulls you down or creates misery for you, admit it. No longer try to romanticize something that is undeserving of you and vow to wait for better: a mutual, supportive love.

2. See yourself better. As you realize how special and sacred you really are, you will no longer allow anything unworthy of you. You will have better boundaries, not accept someone who treats you casually or worse, puts you down. You will no longer get hooked into an “eel” or waste time with someone who is not The One, keeping yourself free & available for your soulmate.

3. Imagine yourself with soulmate love. The key to moving beyond your past, what you have known so far, and into true love is to make where you are going more real than where you are now. Fantasize about what you want and keep it in mind so you won’t be tempted to settle.

As you shift, the people you experience chemistry with will change. And the reality of the love you GET will outshine even the richest fantasy you’ve had about someone from your past. (This is why people who do my work describe constant “pinch me” moments as they manifest soulmate love!) Keep your eye on the prize and it will materialize much sooner than if you continue to spin your wheels.


love,
Kathryn

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9/30/10

Hi! Vacationing AFTER Labor Day is the best. It’s peaceful and uncrowded. We are still in Palm Springs soaking up the sun, taking a breath after a busy summer and deciding our next moves in life. Triple digit temps are forcing us to have what we call "three bathing suit days:" hours in the pools & lazy river. Hot weather is not so bad when you can just throw on a bikini and go swim.

Fall has arrived and you can probably feel change in the air (well, except that summer has FINALLY just arrived in SoCal - LOL!) School has started, we’re all getting back to work and it’s a chance for a fresh start.

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5 DRASTIC Dating Mistakes!

The WAY you date is the single biggest factor between you and your soulmate.

Dating badly can keep you in limbo – with no soulmate and all kinds of drama, rejection, frustration and heartbreak.

Not dating at all usually means you’ve shut down out of fear of the process. That’s understandable if you’ve dated like most people do: a pretty excruciating ordeal.

There is a very simple way to date effectively for your soulmate & nothing less. It is a dating method that tens of thousands of people have learned from me to produce the love of their lives in record time. This kind of dating is easy & fun and QUICKLY leads to your One.

Below I outline 5 Drastic Dating Mistakes:

 
1. Putting too much pressure on one date. If you build your hopes with each date, it can get in the way of your enjoyment of the person, create awkward exchanges and crush your hopes when it doesn’t work out. There is a different way of dating that is even-keeled, long-sighted and can actually make it fun.

2. Rejection Thinking If you look hard for rejection and take a blow each time it doesn’t work out, thinking that you’ve been “dumped,” then you are interpreting badly. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit. Your soulmate will be better than anyone who supposedly rejected you. In the meantime, you are putting yourself through needless drama for no reason.

3. Not Using Your “Power of Veto” Dating is a process of selection, and every single person knows this. You don’t need to feel guilty if there’s no chemistry for you. And you don’t need to settle for someone unavailable, unfaithful or just not right. Saying “no” is the first step to what you want.

4. Making It a Numbers Game Many think if they kiss 100 frogs, they’ll find their prince. They go through the motions to up their odds for love. The truth is that there are no odds. When you date spiritually, there is no random chance. There is only dating for your soulmate, a technique that eradicates dating drudgery completely and effectively pulls your One to you quickly.

5. Elevation Most who do my work end up with someone so hot to them that their biggest issue is learning it’s not too good to be true, accepting their good. There is a tendency to put people you find attractive on a pedestal and think they are out of your league. When you do this in dating, you count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. You need to learn an egalitarian method of dating, in which you see yourself as good enough for anyone (true).



Love & support, Kathryn

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