Dont Believe Me Just Watch!!

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Dont Believe Me, Just Watch!

Q: Kathryn, it is super hard to stay positive when all my friends keep shooting down my hopes for love. Theyre just so negative. And say my prospects are slim.

They get mad that I wont settle. And think I shouldnt hope for much.

How can I deal with this? So far, I get discouraged more and more of the time.

A: Let me tell you a story that will help.

Edie is one of my coaches and first discovered my work going through a divorce.

She was not exactly a spring chicken and was very fearful about finding love.

She did not want to grow old alone and yet her experience of love had been hurtful so she was scared about recreating that.

Friends and family told her to set her bar low, that at her age, she couldnt expect much.

This unthinking words made her even more fearful. After her painful divorce, she did not want to go through any more.

This is not uncommon.

When youre single, every fear that you wont find love or will have to settle will come up.

When I was single, I remember some of the hurtful things people told me:

"At your age, dont expect a good looking guy."

"All guys are having sex. Youll never find someone who is not involved, do dont even expect it."

I remember having to distance myself from one negative friend. It was just too hard when I was already feeling so vulnerable.

Edie went through the same gauntlet of naysaying and doubt.

Its something she and I had to overcome.

She healed from her past, and became strong, increasingly immune to her own fears and the negativity of others.

So to answer your question, the best way to deal with naysayers is the following:

1) Become increasingly immune to others who are negative

2) Keep hope in your heart and be careful about who you share your dreams with

3) Stay hopeful. Keep the faith

4) Do work that will back you up and fight against the deluge of naysaying you may encounter

5) Dont settle but keep your standard high

6) Build yourself up and remember you are a catch.

Edie and I worked on this together, and then, she met John. Not only is he an educated, handsome man but he is kind and adores her.

After dating for about a year, he proposed on Christmas Eve. In her 60s, Edie has experienced more romance than she could ever have dreamed of.
The newly married Edie & John

At their wedding, John thanked me several times for my support of him and their relationship.

He is truly in love with Edie and feels like he won the jackpot. She does, too. Everyone at the wedding was moved by their love.

At the reception, we all laughed when the song "Uptown Funk" was played. The chorus says:

"Dont believe me, just watch"

It was Edies victory dance -- that despite the naysaying, she triumphed and got what she wanted.

I hope youll vow to dance that same dance of triumph at your own wedding. You can!

All it takes it developing your faith that yes, you, too, can find love. Add to that ignoring the naysayers and doing some opening to love.

And you, too, will be singing "Dont believe me, just watch!" at your own nuptials.

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Great Career Bad Love Life!

 

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Q: Kathryn, Why is it so easy for me in other areas but so hard in love?

I have a great career that Im proud of. I have tons of friends, am close with my family and even head up a volunteer effort. But I cannot seem to find my guy, and love has always been hard for me.

Why is this and what can I do about it?

A: There are a couple of reasons this might be so.

1) Other areas like job are linear. Logical. An easy-to-see progression.

2) Secondary goals will have less resistance, but with a big goal, you will smack up into ALL of your resistance. The key is getting around it. But its valuable because you can really move if you face your blocks head-on. How?

• When I work with someone on an issue like this, well assess where the wall is

• It depends on the nature of your past relationships and even your childhood

• Once we pinpoint the blocks, we can put together a protocol to move forward. Some blocks might be sheer resistance. Others may come up as you interact with likely prospects

• It really helps that you have success templates in other areas. That can be put to good use

Heres an example of a woman that I helped.

During intake, "Sue" admitted she had never had a successful relationship.

The longest one shed had was 4 months, and it just fizzled after a while. He quit calling.

Sue was very head-centered, and like you, she had a very good career.

She tended to connect with men in work mode, not from her heart. And there was some past trauma thrown in there that added extra resistance.

We put in a protocol of:

- becoming more heart-centered when outside of work

- scheduled free, fun time

- worked on flirting and laughing and just enjoying herself

- Sue had to learn to create emotional bonding, too

But the upshot is the most lasting relationship of her life. She is engaged to a wonderfully charming man, and they are moving in together.

Yes, the things we want the most can seem elusive, but with some work at dissolving the resistance, they can still happen and happen quickly.

I bless you for finding your way through your own resistance.

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Insights On True Love Tests

By Anthony Cole

Online tests can be among the things to take when you are having doubts with your relationship right now. They may not be completely credibility but they can help bring clarity to your sense of mind. They can help you make wiser future decisions and be with those that can really make you happy.

Giving must come naturally to you by now. True love tests can show to you that there is still a lot to be done on your side. If you cannot see your future without this person, continue to evolve into being a better partner. Get more help from your friends who are also in a relationship of their own.

Have a level for the kind of happiness which you have right now. If the mere sight of this person does not do anything to your nerves, you are in deep trouble. Everything starts with physical attraction and once that is gone, it will be hard for you to remember why you fell in love in the first place.

Make sure that they make you angry as well. If they are not able to envoke that powerful emotion in you, this only means that you have not fallen for them completely. You still need to let time harness what you have and simply enjoy the flow. The ending does not have to be something for you to fear about.

Be able to make sacrifices. This is the part of your life in which you are no longer your own. There is another individual whose happiness depends on you. It may sound like a burden but love makes things easier. So, be wise and sensitive at the same time. Your career may have some weight but the future needs to be considered too.

Do some effort. The best relationships are those that are receiving equal force from both sides. Thus, perform some adjustments on your own personality. You cannot continue being so self centered all the time. This can easily ruin your chance for personally happiness even when that is not your original intention.

If hurting them hurts you too, stop this destructive cycle at once. There is no need to intentionally cause hurt on another individual just for you to get even. Remember that they are the meaning of your life and abusing their kindness will be one thing which you shall regret.

Promises will be things that you get to fulfill from this point onwards. This could be a great surprise for the other people in your life. You shall stop disappointing the individuals who love you more than you can imagine.

Just be honest with your lack love in the beginning. Remember that you are already living in the modern world. Do not fall into the expectations of the people around you since that can bring you to your own destruction in the long run. Nurture what is good and leave when it is no longer in there.

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You Need This Alongside Your Ability To Dream To Be Successful

By Evan Sanders

If you dont instill major amounts of patience into your character this year, your dreams arent going to happen.

Understand that throughout this year, there will be many obstacles and challenges that come your way and try to knock you off track. But, if you have a lot of patience with yourself and the process, you will continue down the track you are on and keep investing in your dream.

Theres another piece to this equation thats incredibly important. People. Never let others take your intensity away or else you are damning yourself to a life where you constantly seek gratification and approval from others. That is a "dream-killing" attitude and it must go. That type of living never grants you any fulfillment because your worth depends on other people.

Never let anyone take your passion away. Never let anyone steal your intensity.

Never make yourself less passionate around someone else just to stroke their fragile ego. If they arent chasing their dreams and you make them feel uncomfortable because you are, fine. Dont worry about it. Keep doing what you need to be doing.

Dream big and live your life out loud.

Dont live a life full of excuses. Instead, live it full of passion and purpose.

2016 will only be different if you follow your passions and your gut and do exactly what needs to be done in order to achieve your dreams. If you fail to put in the work necessary to achieve your dreams, you will be living a life full of anxiety, fear, doubt, worry and stress.

But dont forget the part about who you surround yourself with because its absolutely crucial. Often, people will tell you that you cant do something because they cant do it. They dont want to see you do it because then it reveals their weaknesses inside of them. Do it anyway.

You must recognize this when its happening, and eradicate it immediately. Because once that doubt starts creeping and crawling around in your mind, youre screwed. Game over. Negativity will seep throughout your mind like a toxic spill and the damage is done.

You deserve to have a life full of people who are constantly putting positivity into your heart.

Its time to live the live youve always dreamed of. Its time to live your best life.

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Need some more inspiration? Check out some of these Cute Love Quotes For Him, and dive into Evan Sanders site at The Words Of Encouragement! You might also want to sink your teeth into these Being Happy Quotes as well.

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How Can I Get Rid of This Pain

A saying that I love is: “the pain will push you until the vision pulls you.” 

Heres a great question one of you sent in.

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Q: Kathryn, Ive finally released my ex, but now, I have new pain. I am so lonely that sometimes -- even though Im done with him and see he was not good for me -- Im tempted to call him just for companionship. And all my rejection-thinking is arising, too.

Ugh! Am I just so used to pain that I keep recreating it? I couldnt sleep at all last night. Please help.

A: This pain is fake. And we need to get rid of it.

I know it feels real, so why do I say that?

Its because its based on false premises.

In this case, it means that youre being pushed by the pain -- some past pain.

The reason I call it FAKE is because its assuming that you will always be in this place -- that vacuum that happens before love comes.

But do you know how many people Ive shepherded through this time into the arms of their One? Thousands!

And every one of them wished they had known what was ahead so they could skip the useless pain and be getting ready for the lifechanging moment when love walked in the door.

You have set a powerful intention to follow your dream of a soulmate, and this intention is at work on your  behalf, even when you’re not thinking about it.

If you can refocus on that, then youll be pulled by your vision instead of pushed by this needless pain.

Pain is an indicator that something needs to shift for you. Sometimes it’s something that you’re grieving, which is legitimate pain, but often the hurt is caused or exacerbated by you.

How do you cause your own pain?

• By holding on to a person who is not yours and being unwilling to move on

• By accepting a belief about yourself of about love that is limiting

• By letting people into your life who are hurtful to you and not supportive

• By taking things personally that aren’t (like “rejection,” which I don’t believe in)

• By having a narrow vision that is fear-based instead of full of the faith that love is still in the works for you.

The quickest way to relieve your pain is to examine how you’ve created it and do something differently.

Also, elevate yourself back to your vision for your life, dwelling on that instead. As you do so, there is no pain that won’t fade, no situation that’s irretrievable. A pain-free life becomes real.

Im blessing you for carrying on toward your vision. It will happen sooner than you can imagine!

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Is this your kryptonite !

Heres a great question someone sent me -- one I hear all too often.

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Q: Kathryn, I think Im going to be sick if another person says to me: "Why is someone like you still single?"

They think its a compliment but it hits me in the gut.

Every insecurity I have that something is deeply wrong with me comes up. . . that even though I look normal and "should" have found love by now, Im just left out of love.

How can I handle this better? Its super painful.

A: Im sorry youre experiencing this, but theres an easy way to handle it.

First, lets get it straight that nothing is wrong with you. Youre just blocked in some way from love.

Youre not the only one. Id say 95% of the folks who do my work and then find love feared that somehow they were left out. But they werent, as they quickly discovered.

Secondly, let us prepave for a better experience. Youre taking this too hard because it hits your buttons. Come up with a breezy reply to dismiss the comment and change the subject so this moment can pass and not be so rough on you.

"Ive been concentrating on my career, so Im not worrying about it right now. My guy will come when the time is right."

Remember that the questioner is trying to compliment you, probably not realizing its a bit backhanded.

Let me tell you a story. An attractive woman came to me recently with this same issue.

No one could understand why she was still single and would drop comments like this to her all of the time. Each question hit her like a knife in the gut and intensified her feeling that she was left out of love.

Until I got hold of her :)

We worked on a breezy reply to stop this reaction on her part and skirt past the question quickly.

The genius reply we devised was flirtatiously responding: "And who wants to know?!" when someone asked her why a girl like her would still be single. She simply would not open up the subject of her love life to some wellmeaning acquaintance.

Keeping your love life to yourself is a great idea since when youre single and opening to love, you can be vulnerable. It should be a private.

Making this small tweak helped my client immensely. Her kryptonite was neutralized.

We adopted this same light attitude toward love in general, and I worked with her to start walking in her sexy magnetism that caused people to ask her that question to begin with.

It changed everything for her. She met a guy within a few weeks under an awning when a rainstorm suddenly began. They got to laughing and talking about the crazy storm, one thing led to another, and they ended up going for a bite to eat.

One thing led to another, and they have not been apart since. Their wedding is this September.

Is this a coincidence? Of course not! She had to get rid of her kryptonite and walk in her own strength.

This can be a tricky process to master, but it never fails to produce love.

I hope that youll come up with your own breezy reply and get on with finding love.

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Having Trouble Getting Your Ex Back Try This Instead

Wise people say that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again while expecting different results. So many people, in the aftermath of an unexpected and/or unwanted breakup, find themselves falling into patterns of insanity while trying to get their exes back.

Its quite common.

Your heart is screaming so loud that it drowns out the things your brain is trying to tell you. The one thing your heart knows for sure is that it wants to stop HURTING.

It knows that the breakup is the source of the pain and it wants to fix it. NOW! The thing is, your heart says crazy things, such as: apologize, beg, and bargain. These are the things that will do far more to harm your cause than to see it through.

Instead of repeating all the things that arent working, lets try a different tactic this time around. Lets go for different results. Heres what you need to do instead.

Agree with Your Ex

Want to stop an argument dead in its tracks? Agree with the arguer. First of all, its a shocking experience. There have probably been many times in the course of your relationship together that youve continued an argument youd known you were losing just because you werent ready to admit defeat. Weve all done it.

Stopping the argument is one thing. Its a grudging acceptance, but one your ex can mentally process. However, AGREEING with your ex is a new tactic that will leave your ex reeling.

More importantly, it will leave your ex thinking of you in an intrigued and perplexed way. Your ex thinks he or she already knows whats coming next. Agreeing throws them off balance and reveals that you do, in fact, still have a few tricks up your sleeve.

Stop Trying so Hard

Im not advocating giving up. Im not even telling you that you shouldnt try to get your ex back. Im telling you stop working so HARD. You need to work SMARTER; not harder. The direct approach isnt going to work in the days and short weeks following your breakup. Youre going to need to do your best work behind the scenes if you really want to get your exs attention.

Begin with what you know about your ex. How did you win his or her heart in the first place? What is it about you that your ex has claimed to love the most? Identify that. Understand it and save it for later.

Next you need to identify where the problems started. Was there a specific event, argument, or misunderstanding that began a downward spiral for your relationship? What could you do now that would tip the scales once again in your favor? Now is the time for thinking and not the time for action.

Do you need help coming up with the exact plan of action or working out the timing of putting your plan into motion? More importantly, do you have a plan for what comes next? Once you get your ex back, you need to know what its going to take to keep your relationship on a more even path in the future. Let me help you with that and so much more.

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How to Get Your Ex Back After a Bad Break Up This is How to Get Your Ex Back Fast!

The end of a relationship or even worse the end of a marriage is quite painful and depressing for most of us, because it creates feelings of insecurity and loss.

Before we decide to put a relationship behind us, we must make every effort to overcome all the problems. When someone is important to us, then we must fight and make sacrifices to keep this person in our lives. If you want to get your ex back , then the first thing you need to do is to identify all your mistakes and shortcomings, that led to the separation.

Here are some common mistakes that usually ruin a relationship:

•You were too critical. If you were constantly complaining, then you may have caused feelings of helplessness and rejection in your partner. This alone could have been the reason for the break up, because no one can tolerate this kind of behavior for a long time.

•You played too many power games. Did you ever try to impose your will upon your partner? Relationships should not be about competition, because this is usually disastrous.

•You got too comfortable. Being too comfortable inside a relationship is a problem, because it makes you seem boring. Taking your partner for granted is never a good idea. You should never let yourself go and you should try to keep your partner intrigued and entertained.


So, what happens if you have identified your mistakes and are now ready to get back with your ex?

Here are some simple tips that can help you win your ex back:

1.Do not try to make him/her jealous by mentioning other men or women. Your ex will immediately understand what youre trying to do and you will turn them off.

2.If you have discovered that they have already started another relationship, acting jealous or desperate would be a bad idea. Keep in mind that you may have an advantage over your rival: you have a past together.

3.Rediscover your interests: Sometimes a lasting relationship may be a bad thing: it often makes us lose our personal interests. This may be a good time to rediscover your old hobbies and friendships.

4. Do not bad mouth your ex lover: As tempting as it may be, saying negative things about your former partner is really not a good idea. If you need to get the anger out, it would be better to visit a counselor, or talk to someone you can trust. Also, if you are trying to get him/her back, negative talk is counter-productive, because it will only create feelings of vengeance and retaliation.

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Silly Mistakes Derailing Your Efforts to Get Your Ex Back

How long have you been working to get your ex back without seeing any real results? Many people in your shoes are surprised to learn that it isnt what you arent doing thats holding you back. Its the things you are doing, that are working against you. Here are a few common roadblocks that could be derailing your trip back to relationship bliss.

You are Proud to be there for Your Ex

Its a noble idea. Really it is. However, if youre there for a friendly ear, a comforting shoulder, or a fast perk-me-up whenever your ex needs it from you, your ex isnt really missing out on the benefits of being in a relationship with you. Its getting all the fringe benefits of a loving relationship without putting in the work to keep things going. Instead, youre going to have to let your ex deal with the stings life delivers sometimes without the solace of your comforting presence.

You Keep Trying

I know this one goes against everything your heart (and to some degree your head) is screaming at your right now. However, in times of crisis, reason isnt even in charge of your head either. Reason rarely rules the heart. Why should a time of emotional distress be any different? One person cant do it all in the relationship.

Pat Benatar had it right when she sang, "Love is a Battlefield." Love is war and the winners, in love, have a plan. The tactical advantage goes to the one who retreats, assesses the situation impartially, and plans a strategic assault with victory in mind. You had better believe love is war. And you need to take a little time to assess your current position, the hostility of the terrain, and the best path to victory before you go in with guns (or in this case Cupids arrows) blazing.

You Attack from a Position of Weakness

Fans of NCIS know that team leader Gibbs is always telling his team not to apologize. According to Gibbs, apologizing is a sign of weakness. While thats a philosophical debate for the most part, when youre trying to save your relationship or get your ex back, it is often viewed, the leaving party, as a sign of weakness. You dont want to make your move from an inferior position. Instead, lead with your strengths.

Show your power. Establish your dominance. Come in swinging from a position of strength and dont ever let your ex see you sweat. Theres nothing sexier, to members of the opposite sex, than confidence. Be confident in yourself, your contribution to the relationship, and the fact that its just not time for this relationship to end.

Above all else, dont make a move until you know what youre going to do next. Have a contingency plan in place for a favorable outcome as well as a less-than-favorable outcome so that you dont come across as desperate if you dont win this round. Your mind needs to remain focused on the long-term prize of getting your ex back and every plan needs to ultimately lead you down that happy road.

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Want to Get Your Ex Back Try This!

Movies and romance novels make it look so easy to get your ex back. We all understand that love goes wrong sometimes. But, if you really want to turn the tide for your relationship, you might have to switch up tactics a little bit and try something new and different. Dont let cheesy romantic movies and novels that are fantasy filled ruin your chances. Instead, take a moment to sneak a peek at real advice that gets real results.

Walk Away - And Dont Look Back

Im not saying you shouldnt entertain the idea of getting back together with your ex or that you should even give up hope that youll be able to accomplish your mission. However, you want to make your ex believe that youve given up -- that you arent trying to fix things anymore.

Why?

Because thats really the only way your ex is going to recognize what it means to be alone. As long as you keep coming around or trying to make things right, your ex has the pleasure of your company and the certainty of your support. Walk away. Go through the motions of moving on with your life and let your ex see what life is like without you in it. More importantly, let your ex wonder who youre spending your time with now.

Start Investing in Yourself

During a relationship, people often spend so much time focused on the other person that you ignore the things you want or need. Now is the perfect opportunity to put a little time and attention to fulfilling your own wishes and needs whether they are educational, financial, career-related, or physical in nature. Put yourself first for a change and enjoy a return on investment that involves self-confidence, self-value, and a renewed sense of self-worth.

What most people dont realize is that this is a critical component of getting an ex back. When you start taking care of yourself and putting yourself first for a change, there are often visible changes the world will notice. Word travels quickly in some circles and your ex, unless he or she has relocated to a rock on Mars, is likely to hear about all the changes going on with you. Your ex is bound to be curious and curiosity usually works in your favor at times like these.

But, dont take the call, answer the email, or agree to meet your ex until you have a solid strategy in place to make the most of this meeting. Without the right plan in hand, you can undo all your hard work in one single phone call, conversation, or meeting.

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Trying to Get Your Ex Back Is This Standing in Your Way

Its not easy to be on the outside looking in at what used to be your path to happily ever after. Being unceremoniously dumped without anyone asking your permission, not only hurts, but it also makes your entire world feel as though its spiraling out of control. Your solution to the problem is simple.

You have decided to get your ex back. Youve thrown all your heart, soul, and energy into the coffers and, yet, youre still not seeing a satisfactory return on your investment. If anything, the cold shoulder your ex has been giving you just keeps getting shoulder. Whats going wrong in your efforts to win your ex back? Perhaps, its one of these common, but fixable, hiccups.

Youre Trying Too Hard

You want results and you feel that this is worth an all-out effort on your part. Unfortunately, what your ex needs right now is a little bit of emotional distance from the situation. Sometimes absence really is all it takes to make the heart grow fonder. You just have to give the absence the opportunity to happen. Step back. Scale things down completely and let your ex get a taste of what life is really like without you in it.

Making all the Wrong Moves

At least, thats what it feels like is going on. Every move you make feels like its pushing your ex further and further away. The thing is, its not the moves youre making that are the problems. Its the fact that youre making them. Stand down. Give your ex a chance to breathe a little. Use this time wisely to come up with a plan of action designed to get your exs attention in a really positive way when the timing is right.

Moving a Little Too Fast

This is quite common. Your heart is telling you to get in there and "Nip it in the bud!" You dont want to hear any more of this breakup talk. You want to end it all, right now and get on to the infinitely more enjoyable making up talk. Theres a reason Barney didnt get a loaded gun and that he was only given ONE bullet. Your heart means well but it doesnt always steer you in the right direction.

If none of these things work to get your ex back, then what will? It takes a well-planned and executed attack to win your ex back after a breakup. You must spend some serious time planning your strategy and paying attention to the little details. More importantly, it takes knowing what to do next. A second chance is just that -- a chance. If you want to make it work, a second time around then you need a little magic on your side. I can help with that!


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They never call me back!

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The answer to this weeks question may seem weird but its amazingly powerful.
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love,
Kathryn


Q: Kathryn, I met a guy recently through a friend, and we really seemed to click. We went out, and it went well. We made out a little bit, and I even thought perhaps he could be the One. He just had so much that I was looking for.

He said hed call, but Ive waited and waited. And he has never asked me out again. Ive tried to find out what happened through my friend, but I dont want to seem pushy and we dont talk that often.

This is a pattern for me. Its happened more than once, and Im baffled and hurt.

Why did he not call? Is it me?! Did I do something wrong? What can I do to avoid this ever, ever happening again?

A: Youre not alone. I hear this kind of story all the time. Its a pattern caused by your energy and the way you date.

Imagine exuding an energy to get a man you really like, to desire you, fall for you, and feel like he cannot wait to pin you down for another date.

Imagine being able to make a man who has lost interest in you suddenly perk up when he sees you.

Imagine dating so well that you get lots of interest, and very quickly seal the deal with The One.

You may know this is something I teach, and its why I have a huge wall of weddings -- of people who, like you, had a bad dating pattern and felt there was something wrong with them.

So what is the wildly effective method to never repeat this pattern again?

1. Watch your energy. If you exude even a hint of desperation, then guess what? Men sense it and change their mind about you even if they liked you at first. Desperation repels.

Theres something I teach called the Levels of Attraction, and if youre at Soulmate Level, you will never, ever have this experience again and go quickly into love. This is something revealed in my Soulmate Bootcamp.

You will never look at love the same way once you know this secret.

2. Also, check yourself to see if dating disempowers you. All sorts of confidence issues and insecurities arise when you are dating.

The quality Ive dubbed the "Universal Attractant" is confidence. As you gain it -- and there is a proven way to do so -- then all of sudden people come out of the woodwork interested in you.

One key to my high success rate in love is instilling in people an awareness of who they are and teaching them how to date in a confident way. It makes ALL of the difference.

3. Whats your script?

If you keep getting the same results over and over -- like a fizzled romance that seemed promising, youve got an undesirable script that we have to get rid of.



A script is an energy we have about us that teaches people how to treat us. We have different scripts in different parts of our lives and in dating, no doubt your script could use some tweaking.

The "Universal Attractant Kit" program includes a bonus called "Changing Your Script" that shows you how to alter your script for immediate and very fun results.

One woman who had always been ignored had 3 guys begging for her number when she dropped by a party for only an hour.

I bless you for getting beyond this pattern.

Youll be surprised at how quickly you can change everything with these 3 tweaks.

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4 Reasons You Should Not Rush in to Get Your Ex Back

Elvis Presley, you know, the KING of Rock-n-Roll, said it best. "Fools rush in." You love your ex. Theres no doubt about that. You cant just turn it off because shes decided its over. But if you go all gung ho and rush right in demanding a second chance, you might just end up pushing her into taking out a restraining order to keep you at arms length. Thats the last thing you want to happen if youre serious about getting her back. But, did you know there are other reasons to wait a little while before trying to win her heart all over again? Here are a few of my personal favorites.

1) Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. She needs a little bit of absence from you in order to appreciate how much you did bring to the relationship -- and to her on a personal level. She needs the chance to get over the hurt and anger and start remember the fun, funny, and slightly quirky things you did that brought a smile to her face and made her feel loved by you.

2) You get a little distance from the pain. In the moments when your heart is truly breaking, all you can focus on is the pain. You want the pain to end. Since the breakup was what has caused the pain, getting her back should make it go away. Right? Not necessarily. It may provide a temporary balm, but its better to get a little distance so you can be certain you really want her back or if moving on might be the better path for you.

3) Allows you time to consider your options. You dont have to get her back. Even if you do, you may decide that changes need to be made on your end of the relationship. How much, after all, have you really been getting from the relationship? Are you getting as much from it as you put into it? If not, what kinds of changes do you plan to make?

4) Provides you with the perfect opportunity to devise an effective strategy. You may not be up-to-date on the latest strategy to get your ex back, but that doesnt mean you shouldnt take a little time to brush up on your technique. You may even be surprised to learn that having a strategy for getting back together with your ex greatly improves the odds of success.

Dont float around in a haze of pain begging her for a second chance at every turn. Its not good for your self-esteem or your image. More importantly, it wont melt her heart the way you hope. Instead, sit back, relax, get your bearings. Then let me help you come up with a killer strategy that will have her eating out of the palm of your hands before she knows whats hit her.

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