Slut Shaming

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Q: Kathryn, Ive been doing your "Date for Your Soulmate" Course and its working! Im starting to connect with more hot men, but Ive hit a snag.

Part of the course talks about flirting, and I just cannot do it. I was raised to believe that women who flirt are sluts, and it just feels wrong. Ill feel like a bad person, a hussy, and I cant do it. Even if I try as little as a wink, I freeze up.

A proper woman doesnt act that way, and I need to ask you if I really have to flirt to find love. I dont want to impede my progress. But this is beyond what I can deal with.

A: Wow, thats a lot, and Im so very glad that you wrote about this flirting block, because we need to address it. Here are a few points to help you out:

1. I adore the term slut-shaming because it negates the notion that women are either madonnas or whores. There is nothing wrong with having a sexual side and using it when youre connecting. We all have many complicated sides, and its okay to be sexual. To judge women (and not men -- such a double standard!) for being too flirty is just wrong and can inhibit a womans ability to be who she is.



2. The definition of flirting is a mild sexual energy in communicating. Its a terrific aid to turning a persons head who you are interested in.

3. Flirting ensures you wont be friend-zoned. It also opens up your 2nd chakra. If youve had a long, dry spell, you may in danger of shutting down, and this can prevent love from coming along.

4. Even if you dont want to flirt with anyone else, you definitely want to be flirting with your soulmate.

5. It helps to practice flirting to be in practice when a hot person (most likely to be your soulmate) comes along.

6. Everyone -- even the shyest amongst us -- has a flirting style. It varies wildly, as you are seeing in the course where I talk about all the styles and how to find yours.

I hope this explanation can help flirting seem less scary or prohibitive for you.


The course youre doing has helped so many people open to love! If  youre going to do it, dont skip parts of it. The process cant work as well.

I bless you for getting over this hump. It will open a whole new world to you.

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Never had a long term relationship

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This weeks Q & A is from someone who has had trouble having any lasting relationships at all.




Q: Kathryn, the longest relationship I ever had was just a few months. And that was in my 20s. Now Im turning 40, and its been a long time since Ive had a relationship that lasts longer than 6 weeks.

What is wrong with me?! Im losing faith that Ill ever find someone, and yet, I want a husband and children while I still have a chance at that. Is there any hope for me?

A: You have every hope for love! I have a client getting married in a few weeks who came to me with your exact issue. Walking her beyond her pattern was what changed everything for her.

If I were working with you, heres how we would solve this issue for you.

1. Wed look into your past and see if you are hanging on to old trauma or if you have been equating love with hurt. Wed look for whatever your block is and treat it.

2. We would work to line you up with love completely. I suspect you have a fear or misconception that has you torn about love. We need to let go of anything that is in conflict within. Things like this can hold love away.

3. I would make SURE you know youre lovable and worthy of a lasting love.

4. Finally, we would lay in some new patterns for you -- of thinking, of behavior in connecting with attractive people and of dealing with the inevitable bumps in the road as you date.

This protocol has been super effective in my work. Its responsible for my ever-expanding wall of weddings.

Much of it you can do yourself. But many times, we have a blind spot, which keeps us in a frustrating pattern like yours. What can help is either a love coach or possibly my Soulmate Bootcamp -- a program that has worked with many holdouts, who have almost give up on love.

Its on sale next week for our birthday sale, so stay tuned for that and take a look at it in the meantime.

I support you in finding love. You can and you will!

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The Danger of Dancing with an Eel

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You all are always asking me to write more about THE EEL -- heres a question about it to shed some more light on the topic.

Q: Kathryn, I think Im involved with an eel -- as you describe it -- and its worrying me.

"Joe" and I have been dancing around for about four years. He is super charming and comes on strong. Only to pull away the minute after we talk about getting serious.



I almost feel obsessed with him and no one holds a candle to him, in my opinion.

Should I try to really pin him down and find out? Or should I just hope that the light will come on, hell realize Im the One and finally be willing to get serious with me. I feel hes worth the wait.

A: It does sound like an eel situation, Im afraid to say:

Definition of The Eel: someone who seems in your grasp, but then slithers away just when you thought it was going somewhere, only to reappear again as you give up hope.

Often, the eel is charming and knows how to reel you in just enough that you cant let go.

And just when youre almost over them, they reel you in again.

They can sense when youre finally letting go, which is part of that phenomena of the release work I do.

After four years of your life, he should know if you are the One. Thats enough time of your life spent on him.

Id try one more time and tell him its now or never. And if he again pulls away, then this time, do anything you can to rid yourself of this attachment/obsession.

Remind yourself of how much happier youll be when youre in love with somone who cant wait to get a commitment from you.

Your soulmate will be hotter than the eel. And much less frustrating.

The truth is that I rarely meet someone who is dancing with an eel and is actually happy.

For many, dancing with an eel is a great way to remain single. Keeping yourself tied up with someone unavailable ensures you remain unavailable yourself.

I want more for you, and believe me when I say, theres much, much better for you ahead if you can just let go of this frustrating situation.

Im sending you love & support for getting clarity and moving on.

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They never call me back!

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The answer to this weeks question may seem weird but its amazingly powerful.
Enjoy!

love,
Kathryn


Q: Kathryn, I met a guy recently through a friend, and we really seemed to click. We went out, and it went well. We made out a little bit, and I even thought perhaps he could be the One. He just had so much that I was looking for.

He said hed call, but Ive waited and waited. And he has never asked me out again. Ive tried to find out what happened through my friend, but I dont want to seem pushy and we dont talk that often.

This is a pattern for me. Its happened more than once, and Im baffled and hurt.

Why did he not call? Is it me?! Did I do something wrong? What can I do to avoid this ever, ever happening again?

A: Youre not alone. I hear this kind of story all the time. Its a pattern caused by your energy and the way you date.

Imagine exuding an energy to get a man you really like, to desire you, fall for you, and feel like he cannot wait to pin you down for another date.

Imagine being able to make a man who has lost interest in you suddenly perk up when he sees you.

Imagine dating so well that you get lots of interest, and very quickly seal the deal with The One.

You may know this is something I teach, and its why I have a huge wall of weddings -- of people who, like you, had a bad dating pattern and felt there was something wrong with them.

So what is the wildly effective method to never repeat this pattern again?

1. Watch your energy. If you exude even a hint of desperation, then guess what? Men sense it and change their mind about you even if they liked you at first. Desperation repels.

Theres something I teach called the Levels of Attraction, and if youre at Soulmate Level, you will never, ever have this experience again and go quickly into love. This is something revealed in my Soulmate Bootcamp.

You will never look at love the same way once you know this secret.

2. Also, check yourself to see if dating disempowers you. All sorts of confidence issues and insecurities arise when you are dating.

The quality Ive dubbed the "Universal Attractant" is confidence. As you gain it -- and there is a proven way to do so -- then all of sudden people come out of the woodwork interested in you.

One key to my high success rate in love is instilling in people an awareness of who they are and teaching them how to date in a confident way. It makes ALL of the difference.

3. Whats your script?

If you keep getting the same results over and over -- like a fizzled romance that seemed promising, youve got an undesirable script that we have to get rid of.



A script is an energy we have about us that teaches people how to treat us. We have different scripts in different parts of our lives and in dating, no doubt your script could use some tweaking.

The "Universal Attractant Kit" program includes a bonus called "Changing Your Script" that shows you how to alter your script for immediate and very fun results.

One woman who had always been ignored had 3 guys begging for her number when she dropped by a party for only an hour.

I bless you for getting beyond this pattern.

Youll be surprised at how quickly you can change everything with these 3 tweaks.

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Not a mystery why youre not finding love

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Enjoy this Q & A from someone having trouble finding love.


Q: I am diving into a lot of your work. 

Im having a hard time visualizing and imagining myself with anyone other than one man I know whom I have never been involved with romantically and who is currently in a partnership/living with his girlfriend. 

Any tips for letting go of that and visualizing someone else?  Its been a problem for me for the past 3 years since I met him.  I cannot get him out of my head although Ive tried.

A: Im so happy youre enjoying my work.

But I have to be honest. Im concerned about you.

The single biggest block to love Ive ever seen is attachment to the wrong person. And you are exhibiting major symptoms of just that.

I dont even consider you available until we handle this attachment. So, this is what I would do:

1) Shelf any work you are doing to try and attract love. It is completely USELESS until this is dealt with

2) Set a very strong intention to dissolve your attachment to this unavailable man whom youve never even been involved with



Remind yourself that God has to have something better for you than that! (And rest assured, there is an available, hot guy waiting for you to become available yourself)

3) Do some heavy duty releasing work.

Get and do the guided meditation on the "Releasing" recording. Even consider the Release Kit. You need to pull out the big guns if you are really serious about finding love.

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http://www.kathrynalice.com/releasekit/

4) As you release, do not allow yourself to focus back on this man. When youre tempted to envision him, force yourself to see beyond him. Even a close replica who cant see past you and adores you will do.

I cannot tell you how critical it is for you to take your life off hold. Until you do, youre pretty stuck.

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but chin up! You have every hope in the world for the love you want.

You just need to deal with this attachment, and you can move very quickly into true soulmate love.

I support you in that! ?

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