I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad

Friday, June 11th, 2010

  Better use for a Great Wall of China cannon 

It has been such a whirlwind lately that Ive just about lost my voice, so forgive me for not posting sooner. After seeing Tears for Fears in Manila & visiting the Great Wall of China en route to the States, we did a 3 week tour of the South, seeing family & friends in Georgia, S. & N. Carolina, I did my FIRST Teacher Training EVER in San Diego & now, were home in LA for the summer. Boy, do I need a breather!

I hope to see many of you in my LIVE workshops this summer in LA, including the upcoming Releasing Intensive on Saturday, June 26th.

People often ask me about personal ads as though getting it right is the Holy Grail. Read on to find out my response.

I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad


I read the funniest blog the other day, complaining about the high octane personal ads that sound exhausting. The writer just wanted to go lie down.

This brings to mind a false assumption many believe about dating. Compatibility is a fake idea. Seriously! Studies show over & over that what people say they want and what they actually want are two different things. There is more of a chemistry/soul recognition happening than someone who looks good on paper in each instance.

So, take the pressure off of getting your personal ad perfect or ticking off a list of qualities with each prospective partner. Better to just be in a good mood while writing your ad and abandon loading it up with all your activities.

And as far as dating goes, look for an initial connection. It doesn’t have to be complete excitement at first, because for some chemistry opens up gradually. But you have to have some attraction, which is an indicator there may be something there.

Free Teleseminar

On Monday, June 14th, Im doing a rare, free teleseminar called LETTING GO: A Primer on Release. Its a great way to start out the summer -- getting released so you can dive fully into summer fun. To find out more & sign up (hundreds signed up within the first two hours!), follow this link: http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#1350

Talk to you soon, and I hope to see you while Im in the U.S. this summer!

lots of love,
Kathryn

PS: The Releasing Intensive is projected to sell out next week due to limited attendance. If you have major release issues or find yourself in a lot of pain, go ahead & reserve your spot NOW here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events#1400

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Breaking a Bad Dating Pattern

If you are ready for love and need to ditch an old dating pattern, now is a perfect time to set that intention.

If you have had a bad dating pattern – like going for unavailable or hurtful people, having chemistry with those who are bad for you or being closed due to past hurt – you are not alone. I have worked with thousands of people with similar patterns, and it has been gratifying to watch them dissolve unproductive patterns to date for their soulmate.

There is a way to shift your preferences and get rid of sabotaging dating habits once & for all.

1. See reality and know you can do SO much better. If someone isn’t completely in to you, admit it. If someone pulls you down or creates misery for you, admit it. No longer try to romanticize something that is undeserving of you and vow to wait for better: a mutual, supportive love.

2. See yourself better. As you realize how special and sacred you really are, you will no longer allow anything unworthy of you. You will have better boundaries, not accept someone who treats you casually or worse, puts you down. You will no longer get hooked into an “eel” or waste time with someone who is not The One, keeping yourself free & available for your soulmate.

3. Imagine yourself with soulmate love. The key to moving beyond your past, what you have known so far, and into true love is to make where you are going more real than where you are now. Fantasize about what you want and keep it in mind so you won’t be tempted to settle.

As you shift, the people you experience chemistry with will change. And the reality of the love you GET will outshine even the richest fantasy you’ve had about someone from your past. (This is why people who do my work describe constant “pinch me” moments as they manifest soulmate love!) Keep your eye on the prize and it will materialize much sooner than if you continue to spin your wheels.


love,
Kathryn

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9/30/10

Hi! Vacationing AFTER Labor Day is the best. It’s peaceful and uncrowded. We are still in Palm Springs soaking up the sun, taking a breath after a busy summer and deciding our next moves in life. Triple digit temps are forcing us to have what we call "three bathing suit days:" hours in the pools & lazy river. Hot weather is not so bad when you can just throw on a bikini and go swim.

Fall has arrived and you can probably feel change in the air (well, except that summer has FINALLY just arrived in SoCal - LOL!) School has started, we’re all getting back to work and it’s a chance for a fresh start.

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5 DRASTIC Dating Mistakes!

The WAY you date is the single biggest factor between you and your soulmate.

Dating badly can keep you in limbo – with no soulmate and all kinds of drama, rejection, frustration and heartbreak.

Not dating at all usually means you’ve shut down out of fear of the process. That’s understandable if you’ve dated like most people do: a pretty excruciating ordeal.

There is a very simple way to date effectively for your soulmate & nothing less. It is a dating method that tens of thousands of people have learned from me to produce the love of their lives in record time. This kind of dating is easy & fun and QUICKLY leads to your One.

Below I outline 5 Drastic Dating Mistakes:

 
1. Putting too much pressure on one date. If you build your hopes with each date, it can get in the way of your enjoyment of the person, create awkward exchanges and crush your hopes when it doesn’t work out. There is a different way of dating that is even-keeled, long-sighted and can actually make it fun.

2. Rejection Thinking If you look hard for rejection and take a blow each time it doesn’t work out, thinking that you’ve been “dumped,” then you are interpreting badly. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit. Your soulmate will be better than anyone who supposedly rejected you. In the meantime, you are putting yourself through needless drama for no reason.

3. Not Using Your “Power of Veto” Dating is a process of selection, and every single person knows this. You don’t need to feel guilty if there’s no chemistry for you. And you don’t need to settle for someone unavailable, unfaithful or just not right. Saying “no” is the first step to what you want.

4. Making It a Numbers Game Many think if they kiss 100 frogs, they’ll find their prince. They go through the motions to up their odds for love. The truth is that there are no odds. When you date spiritually, there is no random chance. There is only dating for your soulmate, a technique that eradicates dating drudgery completely and effectively pulls your One to you quickly.

5. Elevation Most who do my work end up with someone so hot to them that their biggest issue is learning it’s not too good to be true, accepting their good. There is a tendency to put people you find attractive on a pedestal and think they are out of your league. When you do this in dating, you count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. You need to learn an egalitarian method of dating, in which you see yourself as good enough for anyone (true).



Love & support, Kathryn

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