I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad

Friday, June 11th, 2010

  Better use for a Great Wall of China cannon 

It has been such a whirlwind lately that Ive just about lost my voice, so forgive me for not posting sooner. After seeing Tears for Fears in Manila & visiting the Great Wall of China en route to the States, we did a 3 week tour of the South, seeing family & friends in Georgia, S. & N. Carolina, I did my FIRST Teacher Training EVER in San Diego & now, were home in LA for the summer. Boy, do I need a breather!

I hope to see many of you in my LIVE workshops this summer in LA, including the upcoming Releasing Intensive on Saturday, June 26th.

People often ask me about personal ads as though getting it right is the Holy Grail. Read on to find out my response.

I Get Tired Just Reading Your Personal Ad


I read the funniest blog the other day, complaining about the high octane personal ads that sound exhausting. The writer just wanted to go lie down.

This brings to mind a false assumption many believe about dating. Compatibility is a fake idea. Seriously! Studies show over & over that what people say they want and what they actually want are two different things. There is more of a chemistry/soul recognition happening than someone who looks good on paper in each instance.

So, take the pressure off of getting your personal ad perfect or ticking off a list of qualities with each prospective partner. Better to just be in a good mood while writing your ad and abandon loading it up with all your activities.

And as far as dating goes, look for an initial connection. It doesn’t have to be complete excitement at first, because for some chemistry opens up gradually. But you have to have some attraction, which is an indicator there may be something there.

Free Teleseminar

On Monday, June 14th, Im doing a rare, free teleseminar called LETTING GO: A Primer on Release. Its a great way to start out the summer -- getting released so you can dive fully into summer fun. To find out more & sign up (hundreds signed up within the first two hours!), follow this link: http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#1350

Talk to you soon, and I hope to see you while Im in the U.S. this summer!

lots of love,
Kathryn

PS: The Releasing Intensive is projected to sell out next week due to limited attendance. If you have major release issues or find yourself in a lot of pain, go ahead & reserve your spot NOW here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events#1400

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Valentines SOS

Are you single and kind of dreading Valentines Day? You are not alone. I have tons of emails every year from people in your same boat so take comfort from that. Id like to help by reminding you of the following:

1. Valentines Day was created by a chocolate company! It is a manufactured holiday and while, yes, its fun to send love reminders to people, it is JUST ANOTHER DAY. When you are in love, you celebrate regularly and dont need a special day to remind you. And when youre single, you may think, "bah, humbug!" and thats just fine.

2. The majority of Valentines and even flowers go out to non-sweethearts. More flowers and remembrances are sent and received by students, teachers and family members than by romantic partners. So claim this holiday for YOU whether youve met a romantic soulmate or not. And remember that there are nonromantic soulmates such as pets, parents, friends, children and even siblings so tap into that love energy which connects you to the same unconditional love that you will feel when you come together with your One.

3. Make a point to send out love to the soulmate you havent met yet. Buy them a card to give them later or spend a few moments thinking of them and sending a message to them on the inner.

4. Every one of us has been the only office worker NOT to receive flowers on an occasion. This day is in NO way a competition to see if youre loved or not. Of COURSE you are! So remove your ego from being in such a competition and if anyone wants to rub it in, feel bad for them that they would need to resort to such a low vibe.

5. When you are with your One, it will make up for EVERY bad Valentines day you ever had. If this one isnt that great, it will get healed in the future, I promise!

Have a good one, and I bless you for love beyond your wildest dreams!

love,
Kathryn

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Cruising around Boracay while our eldest, Calvin, visited in January

Feb 11, 2010

It has been a WHIRLWIND lately and sorry I havent written. We had the BEST time in my soldout Deliberate Creation Telecourse, and Ive just returned to Boracay from Australia, where I taught a few packed workshops and did some interviews.

When it is SO snowy in the U.S., I wish you all could don your bikinis and join us here in the sun.

It is almost Valentines Day and so of course, Im doing lots of media and want to remind you that even if youre single it can be an enjoyable day.

So, heres my popular video on the subject:

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The HARDEST Part of Dating

After working with tens of thousands of people for years on dating issues, I have no doubt what the most difficult aspect of dating is. It is so painful for some that they eschew dating altogether even if it means they won’t find love.

THE ANSWER: The not knowing as you go through the process. Yes, being vulnerable, a requirement for love, and not being able to foresee how love will show up drives people mad. And for no good reason!

How to get over this serious difficulty? Change your thinking about it.

1. Realize it’s exhilarating. Part of the excitement of falling in love is the unpredictability and the anticipation. No one would skip this part when they finally meet their One.

2. Deepen your faith. Remind yourself that love is a done deal for you and will show up in the perfect way (even if your love life looks DOA right now). It will make this process less maddening. You do get love for sure – remember that!

3. Remember: that you can’t skip the process but the end result is worth it. 99% of those I work with would probably skip dating if they could and just go get married (seriously). But of course, this isnt possible. Even if the next person you date is your soulmate (& by all means, affirm this if it’s what you want), you still have to undergo the getting-to-know-you phase, otherwise known as dating.

I bless you for finding an easy way to date – the payoff is worth it!

Talk to you soon!

love,
Kathryn

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Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

Hong Kong (Victoria) Harbour

Hi! We are back from Hong Kong! As promised, I’m posting some photos here. It was an amazing trip, though a bit chilly (we bought jackets!). Jon and I are scooting to explore 4 other Philippines islands before we leave, and we all are dropping by Beijing on our way back to the U.S.

 

Julian and Me, Hong Kong Doubledecker

Kids Stuff! Ocean Park, Hong Kong

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