Updating Part 2 Dos and Donts

Q: Kathryn, I have the most trouble connecting with someone who is hot. I get flushed and intimidated. I can barely look anyone I find attractive in the eye.

I know you say that my soulmate will be the hottest person to me, but how are we supposed to connect when I cant even speak? Its frustrating, and I have no idea how to get over this. Please help!

A: This is a subject I often deal with people on. Until you can connect with someone attractive to you, you are basically discounting every single possible soulmate. Not ideal!

Let me continue with the updating tips -- this time on connecting -- and that should help.

UPDATING, PART 2: Connecting Dos and Donts 

In Part 1 of Updating, I defined Updating as dating out of your league. I dont believe that ANYONE is out of your league, but if you do, I am revealing some dating tips on how to get beyond this and date who you want to -- one step at a time. Part 1 covered The Approach. I asked that when you find someone attractive, no matter how intimidated you feel, you approach them in some way, even with a smile or eye contact. If you dont, you pretty much rule out the very people who may be your soulmate (you will have crackling chemistry with your One).

In Part 2, we cover dating tips such as Connecting Dos and Donts. After you have approached someone you are attracted to, you need to seek a connection. Here are some dating tips.

1. DO watch your energy. You want to seem mildly interested, pleasant and harmless.

2. DONT exude desperation or pushiness. You might as well put your hand on their chest and give them a shove away from you. Why? Desperation and pushiness repel.

3. DO honor the persons boundaries. Dont violate their personal space (learn to be aware of this). Dont go into a monologue if you can tell theyre not into what youre saying.

4. DONT seek to be dazzling. Your stellar personality will be less interesting than being a good listener.

5. DO look deeply into your attractions eyes and become acutely aware of the connection between the two of you.

Connecting should be light, fun and with sensitive energy. Running anyone over with a bulldozer of in-their-face energy may send them scrambling for cover. Practice these dating tips for connecting with someone in the next couple of weeks with no attachment to the results just to get better at connecting when you want to. More dating tips to come!

Read More..

The HARDEST Part of Dating

After working with tens of thousands of people for years on dating issues, I have no doubt what the most difficult aspect of dating is. It is so painful for some that they eschew dating altogether even if it means they won’t find love.

THE ANSWER: The not knowing as you go through the process. Yes, being vulnerable, a requirement for love, and not being able to foresee how love will show up drives people mad. And for no good reason!

How to get over this serious difficulty? Change your thinking about it.

1. Realize it’s exhilarating. Part of the excitement of falling in love is the unpredictability and the anticipation. No one would skip this part when they finally meet their One.

2. Deepen your faith. Remind yourself that love is a done deal for you and will show up in the perfect way (even if your love life looks DOA right now). It will make this process less maddening. You do get love for sure – remember that!

3. Remember: that you can’t skip the process but the end result is worth it. 99% of those I work with would probably skip dating if they could and just go get married (seriously). But of course, this isnt possible. Even if the next person you date is your soulmate (& by all means, affirm this if it’s what you want), you still have to undergo the getting-to-know-you phase, otherwise known as dating.

I bless you for finding an easy way to date – the payoff is worth it!

Talk to you soon!

love,
Kathryn

---

Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

Hong Kong (Victoria) Harbour

Hi! We are back from Hong Kong! As promised, I’m posting some photos here. It was an amazing trip, though a bit chilly (we bought jackets!). Jon and I are scooting to explore 4 other Philippines islands before we leave, and we all are dropping by Beijing on our way back to the U.S.

 

Julian and Me, Hong Kong Doubledecker

Kids Stuff! Ocean Park, Hong Kong

Read More..

How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To

### How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To

---

Youll Study How To GET YOUR Ex Girlfriend or Ex Boyfriend BACK?

Validating his or her needs for space and giving it to him. Predict his / her need for space and suggest it just before he does. Take space from him regardless of whether he insists they wants closeness. In any other case it will boomerang after. Reward positive conduct. When he could take space, but doesnt, reward him by offering him area at another time. Ignore damaging behavior. When providing him space later. Ignore negative conduct. When your partner sighs or even acts childish, pretend that you dont notice to maintain being your exact same cheerful self! Becoming accepting and knowledge of his schedule. Reducing and overlooking minimal flaws. Treat him as a friend as well as an equal. Making him achieve, but not too high. Cause him to accountable in a variety, loving way. Always be firm but warm. Set limits in just a loose structure. Pulling back, if hes considering someone else. Dont compete, but stay connected. If hes your own house, hell come back. Drawing your pet out with fun as well as activities. Accepting their style and learning from it. Then, educate him yours, Show him opposites are really alike. Distinguishing between what you need via him and what you can give to yourself.

visit this site:http://www.textyourexback.com/

How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To

You MUST watch this video all the way to the end to get your ex girlfriend back this simple, push-button way.

Watch the video on this page and learn how to use very small little text messages sent from the cell phone you have in your pocket right now to spider deep into your ex girl or ex wifes head and reawaken the womans passion, love and require for you literally in the push of a button. Regardless of whether your ex girlfriend is not going to answer your calls, emails or texts now, youll be amazed at how quickly her frame of mind towards you changes once you understand these simple secrets and techniques.

Should you go to college along with no one to talk to, and you keep on saying to oneself, that I miss our girlfriend, then you must make sure you make something on her. Whenever you would be free at school in her absence, create something that shed like, maybe, something crafted from clay, something that shed be able to keep in your ex room to know just how much you miss your ex and love the girl. These little things at the end count a lot and make your lover aware about the fact just how much you love and overlook that person. If you say I miss my girlfriend, write an audio lesson for her and sing it out to the girl on the phone. If shed not be attending school as well as college for some reason, or perhaps would not be coming to work with some reason this would make her very delighted and then shed want to get back to you. Every one of these gestures would display how much you pass up her and want to acquire her back in basic ways. All these items would let her know precisely how special means to a person.

Rise above any kind of vices you might be influenced to slide into. By the time you reach this method you should be pretty all-around getting your boy again. But if he has managed to move on to another girl do not try and pick combats with that girl or even sleep with him or her behind her again. Play hard to get, will not act as if you proper care what he does, or perhaps who hes along with. Kill him with kindness , nor worry about the new woman - shes probably just a rebound looking to make you jealous. He can eventually realize just what he had. If this individual looks at you even though hes with her, smile, and if he nevertheless talks about you, stay it. If hes been ignoring you since the day that he has dumped you merely act like you attention at first. Dont write him a couple of depressing notes. Have you relatives and buddies that he likes talk with him about you as well see what he needs to say. If he states hes over anyone than act like the over him. Dress more attractive, hang out wherever he does, put items on your Facebook and so on. that you know he will examine. Be irresistible thus his mouth will certainly drop every time this individual sees you. Take action nice and be gorgeous and attractive.

>>>Need Ideas on How to Get Your Ex Back? Well Answer

Tag: Cheap How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To Reviews, Buying How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To, How Much Is My Ex Wife Entitled To Inexpensive

---

Read More..

UPDATING PART 1 The Approach

Q: Kathryn, I have an issue with guys Im intimidated by. I cant approach them, cant hold a coherent discussion and feel they would never be interested in me. I think I heard you mention something about updating one time. What is it and does that relate to my issue? Can you help me overcome this? I feel like it gets in my way as far as finding my soulmate goes.

A: Updating is basically dating out of your league. I dont believe in it but many buy into this notion. If you feel someone is scary to talk to because theyre desirable to you, you may believe that theyre somehow better than you. This is a false idea. There ARE NO leagues, only human beings looking to connect.

The next time that you see someone you find attractive, here are some suggestions on connecting with them.

1. Get rid of the idea that theyre better than you or could reject you. They cant. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit.

2. Remember were not all attracted to the same thing so there is probably a REASON that youre vibing with this person. Intend to explore what is there.

3. Shore up your energy so its not desperate, which is repellent. Remind yourself that you are special, a catch for your soulmate. Personality, I’d take this advice if I want to find my soulmate.

4. With no agenda other than connecting and keeping in mind that you are worthy of ANYTHING, approach the person and look him in the eye. Smile and ask him something about himself. Remember hes just a human being like you and needs to connect.

If you are fearful of approaching someone youre actually drawn to, like many that I work with, you automatically count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. I cannot be scared of approaching my soulmate. Make it a point to stretch into allowing connections with those you find attractive. If you believe in updating, then vow to be a master at it!

I send you love for conquering your "hot person" jitters. Your soul mate is the hottest person youll encounter just like my soulmate, so we have to get a handle on this issue.

Im going to continue exploring this topic of updating in the coming weeks, since I have so many questions from you all that relate. So check back with the blog soon or subscribe above so you dont miss anything.

Read More..

5 DRASTIC Dating Mistakes!

The WAY you date is the single biggest factor between you and your soulmate.

Dating badly can keep you in limbo – with no soulmate and all kinds of drama, rejection, frustration and heartbreak.

Not dating at all usually means you’ve shut down out of fear of the process. That’s understandable if you’ve dated like most people do: a pretty excruciating ordeal.

There is a very simple way to date effectively for your soulmate & nothing less. It is a dating method that tens of thousands of people have learned from me to produce the love of their lives in record time. This kind of dating is easy & fun and QUICKLY leads to your One.

Below I outline 5 Drastic Dating Mistakes:

 
1. Putting too much pressure on one date. If you build your hopes with each date, it can get in the way of your enjoyment of the person, create awkward exchanges and crush your hopes when it doesn’t work out. There is a different way of dating that is even-keeled, long-sighted and can actually make it fun.

2. Rejection Thinking If you look hard for rejection and take a blow each time it doesn’t work out, thinking that you’ve been “dumped,” then you are interpreting badly. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit. Your soulmate will be better than anyone who supposedly rejected you. In the meantime, you are putting yourself through needless drama for no reason.

3. Not Using Your “Power of Veto” Dating is a process of selection, and every single person knows this. You don’t need to feel guilty if there’s no chemistry for you. And you don’t need to settle for someone unavailable, unfaithful or just not right. Saying “no” is the first step to what you want.

4. Making It a Numbers Game Many think if they kiss 100 frogs, they’ll find their prince. They go through the motions to up their odds for love. The truth is that there are no odds. When you date spiritually, there is no random chance. There is only dating for your soulmate, a technique that eradicates dating drudgery completely and effectively pulls your One to you quickly.

5. Elevation Most who do my work end up with someone so hot to them that their biggest issue is learning it’s not too good to be true, accepting their good. There is a tendency to put people you find attractive on a pedestal and think they are out of your league. When you do this in dating, you count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. You need to learn an egalitarian method of dating, in which you see yourself as good enough for anyone (true).



Love & support, Kathryn

Read More..

Soulmate Level

 Soulmate level is the place you want to be in your energy & in your expectations to attract the love of your life (and nothing else). Once you open to it, the fastest way to manifest is to keep it at that level. Many of you who write without instant manifestation have reverted to old ways, where soulmate love is less likely to happen.

Here are tips on how to stay at Soulmate Level:

 1. Stay hopeful. When you first are exposed to my work, you get very positive about love. Unfortunately, friends can naysay you into doubt again. Or your own pattern of negativity may reassert itself. Continue to find tools to stay upbeat about love and you will remain a powerful beacon of light for your One.

2. Continue to release anything that has blocked or delayed love from you. Likely culprits are an old love you’re hanging onto, limiting beliefs about romance or a pattern of self-judgment. If you’re done any of my work, you know how to release. Keep re-releasing until any delay is gone.

3. Don’t look too hard or do back flips for soulmate love. If you are trying to be everywhere to increase your chances for romance or doing soulmate exercises to the point of exhaustion, you are working it to the point of disconnect. Be mellow, do what is fun and remember there are no odds about soulmate love because it is not random chance that brings you together. It is a magnetization that cannot be denied.

4. Quit digging up that plant! For most who do my work, soulmate love shows up out of nowhere. One minute it looks like a dating desert, the next minute you are happily in love. So if you bothered to go by “appearance” and got discouraged because nothing had shown up yet, you wasted your time. In fact, you can shoot yourself in the foot by digging up the plant too early to see if it’s blossoming. In others, making an assessment that it hasn’t happened and concluding it won’t is counterproductive because you get discouraged. Better to see with the eyes of faith, notice how positive you remain and conclude that change is happening on the inner NOW and love is on its way to you.

---

Wednesday, July 21st, 2010

Hi! I’m just about to celebrate a major birthday. Family are flying in each day and we are taking the party to Palm Springs this weekend. But I wanted to say “hi” and give a shoutout to the many of you who just discovered my work at Agape’s bursting-at-the-seams workshop last Friday (150 people showed up).

Now that you’re open to soulmate love, read on to find out how to keep it at that level.

 Summer is heating up, and I bless you for a hot love life!

 love & support,

 Kathryn

Read More..