Updating Part 2 Dos and Donts

Q: Kathryn, I have the most trouble connecting with someone who is hot. I get flushed and intimidated. I can barely look anyone I find attractive in the eye.

I know you say that my soulmate will be the hottest person to me, but how are we supposed to connect when I cant even speak? Its frustrating, and I have no idea how to get over this. Please help!

A: This is a subject I often deal with people on. Until you can connect with someone attractive to you, you are basically discounting every single possible soulmate. Not ideal!

Let me continue with the updating tips -- this time on connecting -- and that should help.

UPDATING, PART 2: Connecting Dos and Donts 

In Part 1 of Updating, I defined Updating as dating out of your league. I dont believe that ANYONE is out of your league, but if you do, I am revealing some dating tips on how to get beyond this and date who you want to -- one step at a time. Part 1 covered The Approach. I asked that when you find someone attractive, no matter how intimidated you feel, you approach them in some way, even with a smile or eye contact. If you dont, you pretty much rule out the very people who may be your soulmate (you will have crackling chemistry with your One).

In Part 2, we cover dating tips such as Connecting Dos and Donts. After you have approached someone you are attracted to, you need to seek a connection. Here are some dating tips.

1. DO watch your energy. You want to seem mildly interested, pleasant and harmless.

2. DONT exude desperation or pushiness. You might as well put your hand on their chest and give them a shove away from you. Why? Desperation and pushiness repel.

3. DO honor the persons boundaries. Dont violate their personal space (learn to be aware of this). Dont go into a monologue if you can tell theyre not into what youre saying.

4. DONT seek to be dazzling. Your stellar personality will be less interesting than being a good listener.

5. DO look deeply into your attractions eyes and become acutely aware of the connection between the two of you.

Connecting should be light, fun and with sensitive energy. Running anyone over with a bulldozer of in-their-face energy may send them scrambling for cover. Practice these dating tips for connecting with someone in the next couple of weeks with no attachment to the results just to get better at connecting when you want to. More dating tips to come!

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UPDATING PART 1 The Approach

Q: Kathryn, I have an issue with guys Im intimidated by. I cant approach them, cant hold a coherent discussion and feel they would never be interested in me. I think I heard you mention something about updating one time. What is it and does that relate to my issue? Can you help me overcome this? I feel like it gets in my way as far as finding my soulmate goes.

A: Updating is basically dating out of your league. I dont believe in it but many buy into this notion. If you feel someone is scary to talk to because theyre desirable to you, you may believe that theyre somehow better than you. This is a false idea. There ARE NO leagues, only human beings looking to connect.

The next time that you see someone you find attractive, here are some suggestions on connecting with them.

1. Get rid of the idea that theyre better than you or could reject you. They cant. There is no rejection, only the wrong fit.

2. Remember were not all attracted to the same thing so there is probably a REASON that youre vibing with this person. Intend to explore what is there.

3. Shore up your energy so its not desperate, which is repellent. Remind yourself that you are special, a catch for your soulmate. Personality, I’d take this advice if I want to find my soulmate.

4. With no agenda other than connecting and keeping in mind that you are worthy of ANYTHING, approach the person and look him in the eye. Smile and ask him something about himself. Remember hes just a human being like you and needs to connect.

If you are fearful of approaching someone youre actually drawn to, like many that I work with, you automatically count out the people most likely to be your soulmate. I cannot be scared of approaching my soulmate. Make it a point to stretch into allowing connections with those you find attractive. If you believe in updating, then vow to be a master at it!

I send you love for conquering your "hot person" jitters. Your soul mate is the hottest person youll encounter just like my soulmate, so we have to get a handle on this issue.

Im going to continue exploring this topic of updating in the coming weeks, since I have so many questions from you all that relate. So check back with the blog soon or subscribe above so you dont miss anything.

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We Have Actual Facts About Readings

By Carmichael Jacobs

A lot of people wonder about their psychic reading after they have left the spiritual advisers office. Most people see a psychic reading as something that makes complete sense to them. A lot of spiritual advisers say that a reading is meant to open our eyes to something that we cannot see in the natural world. I have to agree that psychic readings are for growth periods in our lives. We often dont understand the complete meanings behind them.

I think that psychic readers tell us things in order to keep the guessing out of our lives. Often we ask, "Does he or she love me? Will I get a pay raise on my job this year? What career should I do?" These questions and many more are powerful because they give us some insight into what to expect. People often ask the question of, "What can I do to move myself to another direction? As you can see, life is more about learning and growing as a person. People tend to be happier once they realize that their life is moving along in a positive direction.

Psychic readings often give us a spiritual path of enlightenment. Many people wonder if their spirit guides are looking out for them or what is really happening in the spiritual world. It is amazing to find out that most people are afraid of the spiritual world and what it really means. There are beings in this world that we simply cannot see with our own spiritual eyes. We often look at these beings as scary or not for us. However, spiritual beings are often trying to communicate positive messages to us in order to see us growing.

We can all become powerful and supernatural if we want to. It often requires us paying careful attention to detail. If we look back on our lives and see change, good things begin to happen in our lives. When we look back on our predictions, we can easily see that the psychic adviser was right on key after all. Spiritual advisers have a special way of tapping into the universe in order to get information from us that truly matters. Often, we are thankful for this information because it keeps us away from danger.

Remember that you are someone that can move ahead. You have the ability to look forward to some specific goals. The goals that are around people are unique and special for the most part. It takes a person of great courage to learn different steps along the way. If you feel like your life is becoming new and powerful, you begin to look past all of the weaknesses of the spiritual plane. Just say to yourself that everything is going to come together when its meant to be. Everything will begin to take focus when you least expect. The energy that is around you begins to take on new challenges for focus and change. Over time, you will see that your reading has many hidden meanings it. Most psychic readings have hidden meanings in them that we are unaware of.

About the Author:

Our website has a lot of live psychics that foretell the future for our clients. a lot of of our spiritual psychics are angel card readers. You can get a live psychic chat with any of our astrologers 24 hours daily. We post daily articles about the new age movement and metaphysics. You will find that our spiritual psychics are easy to get along with and offer free readings.

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The One Rule That Changed My Life Forever

By Evan Sanders

When I was in my final season of baseball in high school, I took a few trips down to University Of Southern California to learn from a very famous pitching coach named Tom House.

What made Tom so famous wasnt his own career in the MLB as a pitcher, but the fact that he was Nolan Ryans (the most famous pitcher of all time) pitching coach.

On a hot sunny day and after about 60-70 pitches in a bullpen, Tom looked at me and said words that I would never forget.

He said, "Evan. 10% of the time you are going to be amazing, 10% of the time you are going to suck worse than imaginable, and 80% of the time you are going to be just average.

Champions are made in that 80%."

80% of the days you have you are going to feel average. Thats right. Average. Nothing great about the day. Nothing crappy about the day. Just "meh."

That may seem like a pretty bitter realization about life, but theres a final piece to all of this that really makes the lesson worthwhile.

You are 100% in control of how your day goes from that first moment you wake up. Yes, you may wake up feeling average, but you get to choose whether you go up or down in the day.

You get the choice of either rising to the challenge or sinking back down into the depths. You get to make the decision to do the hard work and grind through it all or give up completely. But that decision is completely up to you and on you to make.

Those decisions are made when no one is watching and are truly a full representation of your integrity and who you are as a person. Even though those small decisions dont have an audience, they are the ones that will make or break you.

Most days no one will ever see you put the time and effort in to become a champion.

But thats the nature of the beast.

You know how much effort you are giving.

If you understand that everything in your life truly comes down to who you are on the inside and what you are willing to give to see your dreams through, you can accomplish anything. You can become something great and do great things if you are willing to make the sacrifices.

To make it to the end of your life knowing that you gave it your all would lead to a lot of big smiles in your final moments. You knew that you really did it and gave your heart the best chance it had to see its wishes through.

Thats really the only way to do it. Go big or go home.

So create an intention for yourself. Make a request to yourself that you are going to level up and make this year the best year of your life.

About the Author:

Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into this article called The Meaning Of Integrity or these quotes on Changing For Life to get some motivation to move forward!

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