I Give Up!

Im just about to give up on love . . .

Q: Kathryn, I love your work. Ive read your book Love Will Find You and done all the exercises (twice) and regularly do the audio recordings as well.
Im 36 and Ive been single for three years now although it feels like longer because my relationship history is limited and the relationships I have had have been very dysfunctional due to my childhood issues and dysfunctional patternings. Having spent most of my adult life working through these issues and recently coming across your work, I feel like be done and am doing everything to be open and available to my soul mate. Ive reached a point where I feel like Im losing hope. Do you have any advice for someone for when they have reached a point of hopelessness with this work?

A: Lets not throw the baby out with the bath water. Some religions espouse getting rid of all worldly desires. And honestly, this can be for the purpose of ceasing to be so frustrated. You do feel better if youve been super frustrated. 

But is it necessary to take it that far? 

To quit wanting what we want?

No, its not. Theres a better way. The truth is that you feel so bad about love because:

a) youre checking the souffle while its still cooking so naturally, it falls. Dont do that! Give yourself some time to manifest, and quit looking every second to notice you havent yet met anyone.

b) patterns of negativity and pain still take over, so yes, there is more healing to be done, though it doesnt have to take long

c) when you think of love, its from the vantage point of a have-not, which is painful. When you think of something, and it seems in range, your thoughts are full of hope. But when it seems impossible, its not fun to ponder upon it.

So whats the solution?

a) give yourself time to heal and manifest. Dont be so impatient when you are obviously still in process

b) keep chipping away at your default emotional and mental state, which seem to be still full of fear and worry. The opposite is FAITH, and thats our goal. To get you to a state of wellbeing and peace

c) Id love you to start imaging love is within your grasp, and youre on your way right now. This will make the thought of love less painful, and you wont feel so much like giving up. Also, it is true!

Finally, my books and CDs touch the surface and for many, they are enough. But if youve had trauma or a lifetime of hurt, you may need to do deeper work -- with a full-on course or program I offer or even my coaching program.

Im blessing you, and I hope youll hang in there! Much love & support to you! ?

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I Cannot Sleep

5/25/13

On the Cover of My First Magazine!

Hi there! I havent blogged in a while as we update my website, but I wanted to touch base since its been so long.

I’m on my summer teaching tour. The East Coast has been just amazing so far. I flew to New York to teach and officiate a wedding in Pennsylvania. (Congrats to the beautiful couple!)

Officiating the Wedding of my Coach Lisa Caroselli

We had a blast and took the boys to DC to see how the country was run, too. Weve traveled so much internationally that theyve seen more countries than U.S. states, so were working on that :-)

The Fedora Bunch on the East Coast

San Francisco is next week (see magazine cover above), and I look forward to seeing many of you for my workshops there -- theyre always crowded & fun.

Boy is love in the air! Below is a fascinating email I got about not being able to sleep.

And this person is not alone. Are you next?

Read on to find out how.

Love,

Kathryn

I Cannot Sleep

One recent email cracked me up.

Dear Kathryn, 

I’m 3 weeks into a romance just like you describe. I am exhausted. This guy isevery single thing that I want. 

I’m so worried he will slip away that I’ve got insomnia. It’s been a whirlwind, and he says all of the right things.

He cannot seem to be without me for too long. 

Is this too good to be true? Help!

This is what we call a “quality problem,” one we’d all love to have, right?

And it’s very typical of those who do my work. I get letters like this often.

If you haven’t had soulmate love yet, when it comes, it can freak you out.

If it’s so terrifying, this uncovers a problem.Those who have a hard time accepting their good are NOT UP TO SPEED with it.

Yes, they still get their love – as evidenced by my client who ended up with a panic attack in the emergency room thinking her love was leaving her while he was cooking up a proposal.

However, you can expedite your journey to love by being wide open to that One who will blow every other romance you’ve had out of the water.

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Updating Part 2 Dos and Donts

Q: Kathryn, I have the most trouble connecting with someone who is hot. I get flushed and intimidated. I can barely look anyone I find attractive in the eye.

I know you say that my soulmate will be the hottest person to me, but how are we supposed to connect when I cant even speak? Its frustrating, and I have no idea how to get over this. Please help!

A: This is a subject I often deal with people on. Until you can connect with someone attractive to you, you are basically discounting every single possible soulmate. Not ideal!

Let me continue with the updating tips -- this time on connecting -- and that should help.

UPDATING, PART 2: Connecting Dos and Donts 

In Part 1 of Updating, I defined Updating as dating out of your league. I dont believe that ANYONE is out of your league, but if you do, I am revealing some dating tips on how to get beyond this and date who you want to -- one step at a time. Part 1 covered The Approach. I asked that when you find someone attractive, no matter how intimidated you feel, you approach them in some way, even with a smile or eye contact. If you dont, you pretty much rule out the very people who may be your soulmate (you will have crackling chemistry with your One).

In Part 2, we cover dating tips such as Connecting Dos and Donts. After you have approached someone you are attracted to, you need to seek a connection. Here are some dating tips.

1. DO watch your energy. You want to seem mildly interested, pleasant and harmless.

2. DONT exude desperation or pushiness. You might as well put your hand on their chest and give them a shove away from you. Why? Desperation and pushiness repel.

3. DO honor the persons boundaries. Dont violate their personal space (learn to be aware of this). Dont go into a monologue if you can tell theyre not into what youre saying.

4. DONT seek to be dazzling. Your stellar personality will be less interesting than being a good listener.

5. DO look deeply into your attractions eyes and become acutely aware of the connection between the two of you.

Connecting should be light, fun and with sensitive energy. Running anyone over with a bulldozer of in-their-face energy may send them scrambling for cover. Practice these dating tips for connecting with someone in the next couple of weeks with no attachment to the results just to get better at connecting when you want to. More dating tips to come!

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2 Easy Steps to Connecting with Someone Hot A Challenge!

One of the biggest questions I get from singles is how to connect with someone super attractive to them.

No matter how outgoing you are, you can get tongue-tied when faced with a hottie. Fear of rejection or sheer intimidation can kick in.

If you do not learn to connect with those you are attracted to you, you rule out those most likely to be your soulmate. So, we HAVE to tackle this issue!

Heres my easy two step formula to learning to connect with those you are attracted to:

1. Boost yourself up. Remind yourself you are not chopped liver. Put yourself up on that pedestal with this hottie, and remember that they are lucky to connect with you. You are a good conversationalist, and have something they want.

2. Be sensitive to this person. Rather than trying to come across as a big wit, put on your listening cap and think about who this person is and what (s)he might need. Ask him or her a question. Bring them out, and you dont have to worry about what to say.

You dont want to approach them with any big agenda. Instead, the sole intention is to connect. The rest can come later.

I have had a phenomenal success rate with the shy and the introverted by using this method, which plays to their strengths.

You will get better with practice, so my challenge to you is to try this method on 3 people you are attracted to this week.

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The 1 2 3 Punch

Happy Thanksgiving! We are spending the day with family & friends. I’m making deviled eggs and a tofurky roast for those vegetarians amongst us.

I hope you have a wonderful day, as we express gratitude for all that we have.

On that note, we begin a special phase today of accelerated manifestation that includes Step 1 of what I call the 1-2-3 Punch.

I always find it useful to acknowledge this and use the heightened period to consciously create the next intention that we want.

If you are ready for your soulmate, we’re exploring Step 2 on Tuesday with a free teleseminar called “Love Sabotage.” You can sign up for it here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#250

In this blog, I’ll teach you the first step of the 1-2-3 Punch to manifest. Stay tuned for Steps 2 and 3 in future newsletters.

Have a great Thanksgiving!

Love,

Kathryn

The 1-2-3 Punch

The holidays offer a period of time in which we can manifest more easily than usual: moving from one year to another, time out from usual activities plus a chance for celebrating.

If you have a strong wish for change in your life, it’s a great time to capitalize on this opportunity – starting now.

Even if you are not in the U.S. where today we give thanks for what we have, it’s the perfect time to begin this process. It follows a natural phase that occurs during the

next few weeks.

This exercise is one of conscious life evaluation and resetting for your next wishes.

Step 1: THANKSGIVING. Today (or over the long weekend), make a list of everything you are grateful for in your life. From simple things like your health, your breath and the sunshine to blessings during this past year, really stop to appreciate your year’s highlights.

You can ritualize this – as we do – by speaking a couple of your gratitude highlights together in a group round robin. Or do it privately alone or with one or two people. As you

take this step, really give thanks for what 2012 has brought – the good things.

Step 2 - Step 2 has to do with release. I will talk more about this step in my next blog and then, Step 3 of this magical process closer to the end of the year. I have used the 1-2-3 Punch to manifest as many as TWENTY-THREE intentions in one year. I’d love you to have that same success!

I’m doing a free teleseminar this coming Tuesday called “Love Sabotage” to honor Step 2 – getting rid of any pattern that may have thwarted you in your wishes for your soulmate. I’d

love you to join us. Sign up here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#250

Upcoming Events

Tuesday, November 27: 6 to 7 pm Pacific

7-8:00pm MST (Denver); 
8-9:00pm CST (Chicago); 9-10:00pm EST (New York);
*We 11/28 2-3:00am GMT (London); 1-2:00pm EDT (Sydney)

LOVE SABOTAGE: Quit Repelling Romance

FREE Teleseminar

Learn to control your energy to produce what you want

•  The specifics of REPELLENT and ATTRACTION behavior

•  Learn to SALVAGE any relationship that you want

•  How to quit SABOTAGING yourself in dating & relationships

• 4 things you should NEVER DO when meeting someone youre

interested in

• The SECRET attractant that is irresistible

• A MAGIC practice that can turn around any situation

This teleseminar is designed to make you aware of how you affect what you manifest, often without even knowing it . . . and adjust your energy to produce just WHAT YOU WANT!!

A MAGIC practice that can turn around any situation

This may be IT -- the one ingredient you need to at long last welcome in your soulmate! 

To register for this FREE event NOW, visit this link:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#250

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The KEY to Letting Go!

One of the KEYS to why people swear by my releasing technique is the ritual I teach as part of it.

This Part #4 in my releasing video series will give you the basics of how its done. Enjoy!!

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Away We Go! Love No Limits

Feb 20, 2013

 As we recover from Valentines Day, your 2013 intention for love may be first and foremost on your mind.

It’s a powerful time to call your soulmate in.

You just have to be willing to leave behind limits and accept the changes that will bring on love. Two keys are:

1) No longer giving in to negativity, limits or old, tired attachments: either in word, deed or thought. The more immaculate you can be in your energy, the faster things will go for you.

Example: Never again agree with your friends about how few prospects are out there or that all the good ones are married.

2) Keep your eyes on the future you want, the vision of your love intentions being realized. This means making peace with where you are now (giving it very little focus) and building an unbelievably rich “mental equivalent.”

Example: Imagine looking into your love’s eyes right now. The electricity, understanding & excitement. Reach out and touch him or her (in your mind) and feel the warm, inviting skin. Experience the perfect fit of your bodies entwined.

To continue going fast into love, sign up for my FREE teleseminar “Soulmate Breakthrough”. I scheduled it just for YOU, to help you have a real breakthrough into love. Its only available for another day, so get it NOW and begin attracting love immediately.

Register here:

http://www.kathrynalice.com/events.htm#300

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