I Give Up!

Im just about to give up on love . . .

Q: Kathryn, I love your work. Ive read your book Love Will Find You and done all the exercises (twice) and regularly do the audio recordings as well.
Im 36 and Ive been single for three years now although it feels like longer because my relationship history is limited and the relationships I have had have been very dysfunctional due to my childhood issues and dysfunctional patternings. Having spent most of my adult life working through these issues and recently coming across your work, I feel like be done and am doing everything to be open and available to my soul mate. Ive reached a point where I feel like Im losing hope. Do you have any advice for someone for when they have reached a point of hopelessness with this work?

A: Lets not throw the baby out with the bath water. Some religions espouse getting rid of all worldly desires. And honestly, this can be for the purpose of ceasing to be so frustrated. You do feel better if youve been super frustrated. 

But is it necessary to take it that far? 

To quit wanting what we want?

No, its not. Theres a better way. The truth is that you feel so bad about love because:

a) youre checking the souffle while its still cooking so naturally, it falls. Dont do that! Give yourself some time to manifest, and quit looking every second to notice you havent yet met anyone.

b) patterns of negativity and pain still take over, so yes, there is more healing to be done, though it doesnt have to take long

c) when you think of love, its from the vantage point of a have-not, which is painful. When you think of something, and it seems in range, your thoughts are full of hope. But when it seems impossible, its not fun to ponder upon it.

So whats the solution?

a) give yourself time to heal and manifest. Dont be so impatient when you are obviously still in process

b) keep chipping away at your default emotional and mental state, which seem to be still full of fear and worry. The opposite is FAITH, and thats our goal. To get you to a state of wellbeing and peace

c) Id love you to start imaging love is within your grasp, and youre on your way right now. This will make the thought of love less painful, and you wont feel so much like giving up. Also, it is true!

Finally, my books and CDs touch the surface and for many, they are enough. But if youve had trauma or a lifetime of hurt, you may need to do deeper work -- with a full-on course or program I offer or even my coaching program.

Im blessing you, and I hope youll hang in there! Much love & support to you! ?

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2 Easy Steps to Connecting with Someone Hot A Challenge!

One of the biggest questions I get from singles is how to connect with someone super attractive to them.

No matter how outgoing you are, you can get tongue-tied when faced with a hottie. Fear of rejection or sheer intimidation can kick in.

If you do not learn to connect with those you are attracted to you, you rule out those most likely to be your soulmate. So, we HAVE to tackle this issue!

Heres my easy two step formula to learning to connect with those you are attracted to:

1. Boost yourself up. Remind yourself you are not chopped liver. Put yourself up on that pedestal with this hottie, and remember that they are lucky to connect with you. You are a good conversationalist, and have something they want.

2. Be sensitive to this person. Rather than trying to come across as a big wit, put on your listening cap and think about who this person is and what (s)he might need. Ask him or her a question. Bring them out, and you dont have to worry about what to say.

You dont want to approach them with any big agenda. Instead, the sole intention is to connect. The rest can come later.

I have had a phenomenal success rate with the shy and the introverted by using this method, which plays to their strengths.

You will get better with practice, so my challenge to you is to try this method on 3 people you are attracted to this week.

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A Book Review On Getting Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Back

How To Know If My Ex Girlfriend Wants Me Back

Hello, Thanks for visiting my blog!

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you know this has happened to you.
You stand there, looking at your phone, your thumb quivering over the
keypad . . .
You want her back more than anything. You want to feel her in your.
You want her to be yours again . . .
But your thumb just shakes. You think about her out there without you. Out there with
another man. Smiling at him the way she used to smile only at you.
You feel this awful nausea through your whole body . . .
And you put your phone back in your pocket wondering what the heck you should say.
Well, now there’s good news for you. Brad Browning (who’s appeared on the Rachael Ray show among other programs) has come up with a simple method for using  TEXT MESSAGES to drag your ex girlfriend back to you like piece of cake . . . to erase all the negative thoughts she has about you and to create the relationship you’ve always wanted with the woman of your dreams . . .
“Text messages are the closest thing we have to telepathy,” says Brad Browning. “With the right texts you can short circuit a woman’s critical brain and awaken those deep feelings she secretly still has for you in her heart no matter how hard she tries to deny them. Just send the right messages in the right order and you’ll be amazed at how she ‘decides’ she wants you back all on her own. . .
Go watch this short video  to learn Brad Browning for using TEXT MESSAGES
to bring your ex girlfriend back into your life (and your bed) . . . it works no matter how long you’ve been broken up, no matter who broke up with who and even if he’s seeing someone else now.

But one quick warning: “Please, don’t use this stuff if you’re manipulative or abusive towards your ex girlfriend. It’s very powerful stuff and you should only use this if you truly believe you and your ex girlfriend are meant to be together.”
Here’s the video link again:

For Guys whos seeks to reconcile with ex-boyfriend click this link: Reconcile With Your Ex-Boyfriend

If you have any questions feel free to leave your comments in the form below.

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How To Know If My Ex Girlfriend Wants Me Back
Hi, Thanks for visiting my blog!

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you know this has happened to you.
You stand there, looking at your phone, your thumb quivering over the
keypad . . .
You want her back more than anything. You want to feel her in your.
You want her to be yours again . . .
But your thumb just shakes. You think about her out there without you. Out there with
another man. Smiling at him the way she used to smile only at you.
You feel this awful nausea through your whole body . . .
And you put your phone back in your pocket wondering what the heck you should say.
Well, now there’s good news for you. Michael Fiore (who’s appeared on the Rachael Ray show among other programs) has come up with a simple method for using TEXT MESSAGES to to drag your ex girlfriend back to you like a tractor beam . . . to erase all the negative thoughts she has about you and to create the relationship you’ve always wanted with the woman of your dreams . . .
“Text messages are the closest thing we have to telepathy,” says Fiore. “With the right texts you can short circuit a woman’s critical brain and awaken those deep feelings she secretly still has for you in her heart no matter how hard she tries to deny them. Just send the right messages in the right order and you’ll be amazed at how she ‘decides’ she wants you back all on her own. . .
Go watch this short video  to learn Michael Fiore’s method for using TEXT MESSAGES
to bring your ex girlfriend back into your life (and your bed) . . . it works no matter how long you’ve been broken up, no matter who broke up with who and even if he’s seeing someone else now.

But one quick warning: “Please, don’t use this stuff if you’re manipulative or abusive towards your ex girlfriend. It’s very powerful stuff and I only want you to use this if you truly believe you and your ex boyfriend are meant to be together.”
Here’s the video link again:

Related Article - helponhowtogetmyexback.com

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The KEY to Letting Go!

One of the KEYS to why people swear by my releasing technique is the ritual I teach as part of it.

This Part #4 in my releasing video series will give you the basics of how its done. Enjoy!!

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Research Before Selecting A Divorce Attorney

By Michael Johnson

Contemplating divorce is a stressful period in the life of married couples. Proper procedures should be put in place before a spouse breaks this news to the partner. Prior to announcing the decision, consulting a lawyer specializing in divorce can limit issues when moving forward. A spouse on the receiving end of divorce papers may not be agreeable to producing needed documents pertaining to assets. Hiring a professional divorce attorney will ensure the necessary paperwork can be collected in advance.

There are many ways to procure a NJ divorce attorney. You can ask friends and relatives if they can recommend anyone, or you can search the telephone book yellow pages and the Internet. When selecting a divorce attorney, narrow your list. Before making an appointment you ought to check--out those attorneys you are considering. You can do this by looking on the Internet.

These days, it is the rare lawyer that doesnt have a Web site which provides potential clients with valuable information regarding their practice. You will be able to read about their affiliations, certifications, and experience. Your local law society will be able to tell you if anyone has filed a complaint about the lawyers you are considering. When you are ready to conduct an initial consultation, you will want to form an opinion as to whether or not you and your potential legal representative are compatible.

A divorce lawyer may be hired with limited representation or full representation. Confirm that the attorney of choice has handled similar cases to the one being discussed. An attorney is usually hired to handle the entire process, from serving divorce papers on the spouse to final judgement in the courts.

A limited representation attorney provides services on specific issues like property division, child support, custody and visitation. Marriages ending on good terms may be appropriate to being dissolved with limited representation. Attorney fees will require in-depth discussion and full disclosure. Many lawyers choose not to advertise all fees. Fees can be broken down by consultation fees, document fees and miscellaneous additions. Clarify all potential expenses before selecting a divorce attorney. Misunderstandings of the true costs involved can cause serious issues between a client and their attorney.

About the Author:

Learn about New Jersey family law arbitration as an alternative way to resolve family, custody and divorce disputes.

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Discover How Get Your Ex Back in 4 Easy Steps

Almost everyone in their life has had to go through a break up. A breakup is a strange thing. Most things in life, the more you do them, the easier it becomes to do. With break ups no matter how many youve had to go through in the past, they certainly dont become easier to go through.

After a break up, unless the relationship was completely terrible, most people desire to get their ex back. In fact, sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they still desire to get their ex back. You really shouldnt try to get back with your ex if they ever used physical violence or words to hurt you. That is not a healthy relationship. If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you, then consider yourself lucky.

Otherwise, most relationships follow a pretty predictable pattern. When you first meet someone everything is wonderful and new. They can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes. After a short while comfort sets in. You adjust to each other. When the newness is gone and the comfort is there things in the relationship change. The little quirks you were willing to overlook before actually bother you now.

There is an expression: “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Truer words couldnt be spoken for relationships. After a couple get comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts. This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship. It takes work and effort to maintain a relationship. Sometimes, when things break, instead of getting repaired, the other person wants out of the relationship completely

Do you believe, despite it being over, your relationship is worth salvaging, even if the other person made it clear, its over? You need some answers on how get your ex back. Here are four steps you can take.

1. Say sorry

Saying you are sorry is one of the best how get your ex back methods. Even if it doesnt get your ex back, its usually the best first step. Be sure that you say sorry for the right reasons. After a breakup it can be easy to blame yourself for everything. Remember, it takes two people to have a successful relationship. Knowing what exactly to apologize for is critical.

Whatever you do, when you apologize dont let your ex bait you into an argument. The biggest irony of saying sorry to an ex is that it can easily lead to another fight. If you say youre sorry, and your ex brings something else up, dont get defensive. Stay calm, keep your emotions, your ego, and your pride in check.

2. Sit down and talk things out

If your ex is up to it, set a time where both of you can sit down and talk. Whatever you dont beg, plead, cry, or force your ex into this. If they dont want to, then just go to the next step. If they do agree, youre going to have to keep your emotions in check. This isnt the time to get into a fight again. Make it clear to your ex that you have no desire to bring blame into the discussion.

You want to talk about the issues objectively. If you talk strictly about the issues without assigning blame, youll get better results. It is best if you can get a therapist or an expert in the field of relationships involved with this, if at all possible.

3. Give some space

This may seem counter-intuitive to how get your ex back. You have to remember just because you want to talk to them or see them, doesnt mean they do. It is crucial to allow the partner some space. A brief time away from each other, before you try to win them back, will give you both time to cool down and a chance for them to miss you. If youre in touch with them all the time, they wont be able to miss you.
4. Show them you care about yourself

Prove to them that you care about yourself. If you seem desperate, clingy, and whiny, you will not succeed. If you sit around the house waiting for them to call or keep checking your email every few minutes hoping to get their message, youre not doing yourself any favors. Hang out with friends. Go to movies, go to concerts, go to the mall. Whatever, just get up and get out and live your life.

Its best if youre not there when your ex calls. Then theyll be wondering what youre doing. If youre out and your cell rings and its your ex, dont answer it. Let the call go to voice mail. The best thing to do is wait until the next day to call them back. Tell them you were busy, and you didnt have time to call them back. This will probably shock them. You may even be able to get them to pursue you again.

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