Dating Desert

Q: I am in what you call "a dating desert" and it doesnt seem to end.

I dont have any eligible men coming into my life whom I can date. I cant even find someone interested to practice on all the knowledge I have learnt about relationships in the past 2 years. Even online, I created a profile and decided to give it a shot, came across two profiles for men who seemed interesting. They contacted me and we started to chat but in both times it fizzled away very quickly and they stopped contacting.

If the outer reality is only reflection of what is inside us. What belief could be inside me that prevent me from finding interesting men in my outer environment?

I tried to release beliefs that there is no one for me in this town and good men are hard to find but still havent seen any results.

To be honest I dont believe my soulmate is living in my home town but still I cant move out right now and need to practice. HELP.

A: First off, lets not make a conclusion when you feel so down. Youre not seeing anything clearly when youre discouraged Of COURSE, you have a soulmate, who could be closer than you know.

A dating desert is just a temporary appearance. Because its so organic, love could show up any minute. And people doing my work have had it show up in under 10 minutes. So you never know . . .

Good for you to look at your beliefs to see how they are affecting what is or isnt showing up in your life. Your inner belief that is limiting you could be something like:

"There are no interesting, eligible men in this town."

"Im so picky that Ill never find anyone."

"Online dating is a barometer that Im not meant for love."

Remember none of these are true. Best course of action is:

1) Work on these beliefs. Look for evidence to the contrary. Happy, married couples in your town reminding you that if someone found love there, so can you. And the fact that people come and go in your town all the time. Or you could meet someone one town over.

Remember all of my love stories of love being found in the most unlikely places by seemingly unlikely people. Why would you be left out of this? You wouldnt!

2) Do not do anything that gets you down. I wouldnt pursue online dating since it is discouraging you. One of the biggest mistakes people make is using a temporary dating desert, bad results in online dating or anything on the outer as an indication that you dont get love. Nothing could be further from the truth.

3) You may need to distract yourself for a bit since love is such a hard subject for you. I suggest putting thoughts of love on hold for now, and just do anything that will make you happy. Concentrate on enjoying friendships, enjoying activities that give you pleasure and just getting happy now. It will put you in a better energy for love to come in even when you are not thinking about it.

Im sending you SO much love and support to realize that you are precious, lovely and extremely lovable. Love WILL happen for you. Im holding that with you!!

Love and support, 
Kathryn

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Does Age Matter

Q: Hi Kathryn,

I think you may be the only person who can give me solid, unbiased advice on my current love life. I need help!

Ive been dating a man for the past few months and we really hit it off. Spending time together and getting to know one another was a blast and it was so easy. We really click. But once he started getting really emotionally attached to me, and I to him, he put on the brakes. The completion is that I am 25 years younger than him. The age difference doesnt bother me but he has leftover hurt from a younger woman he started a few years ago. He believes that after we fall in love, in 5 or 10 years, I will realize that Im with an old guy and wont want to be with him because of it. Which would break his heart and make life unbearable for him. I told him there are no guarantees but I could see us being happy together for a long time because I really like the person he is. If not for this issue, I think we could be happy together. Would my soul mate be so afraid of me breaking his heart that he would hold me at arms length? Should I try to hold onto him when hes so afraid of what our future may hold?

Awaiting your advice,

A: The answer is “No!” Your soulmate would not be so afraid that he could not move forward. My rule is to give it one more really good try to get through to him, and if he is still paralyzed by fear, then move on, as hard as that might be. Remember you can always let go, and if he’s not the one then, someone else is, so you’ll be going toward your One.

How to broach the subject? Ask him for some time, get together, chitchat and enjoy each other so you’re in  a good mood before you bring up the subject. Then, look him in the eye,  touch him and tell him this: “Age only matters with cheese and wine. Love doesnt recognize age. It doesnt matter to me, and couples with greater age differences than us have worked it out. We can’t live our lives out of fear for the future. I’m not your ex. I want to be with you, and you know we have something good. Can you give us a chance?”

Really listen to his answer. If he still cannot get over this, I would not keep trying. It should not be this hard. You’ll have to move on, but rest assured if he still can’t move forward, there will be even better in your future. Love & support!

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I Attract Creeps!

Q: Dear Kathryn, I keep attracting scary guys – ones who make my skin crawl. And when I try to make contact with attractive guys, they ignore me. I am so tired of having to suck up my feelings and have a stuff upper lip like a marine. Even some of my male friends call me GI Jane and say I am one of the strongest women they know emotionally. What advice would you give for people who have reached the end of their rope like me?  Thanks.

A: I’m sorry you’re having this experience. The fact that you feel like a soldier at war is not good. It means you’re approaching life as though it were a battle zone, which I know if feels like for you right now.

The truth is that life can be very easy – like an endless vacation. But we need to change some things.

What you’re drawing into your experience indicates that your point of attraction is off. It can be for a number of reasons, but central to it seems to be a lack of healthy self-image.

Being approached with unwanted attention usually means you lack proper boundaries.

And when those you want to connect with are ignoring you, it often shows that you are carrying a “script” that says “I’m not worth noticing.”

These can be altered. We need to lay in some better boundaries for you. Then the “creeps” will steer clear of you. And as you change your script to one that says: “I’m worthy and a catch, hotties will line up to pay you some attention.”

I bless you for stepping into the different life you SO deserve!

Love & support, Kathryn

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When Will Psychic Readings Pay More Money

By Larry Jack

When you first get started in the psychic industry, people often want to know how much money they should charge for a psychic reading. This is not an easy question to answer for several reasons. For starters, if you dont have any experience reading people and want to make a lot of money, it is going to be difficult. Most clients know when a spiritual adviser has a lot of experience. Most new psychics are charging between $1.00 and $1.99 a minute. Advanced psychics that have been giving readings for 10 years or more charge around $2.99 to $8.99 per minute.

Flat rate prices are always a good option for psychic readings. Many customers dont feel comfortable using astrology websites that charge them by the minute. They would much rather pay a flat rate of around $40.00 to $300.00. Psychic readings are all based on your accuracy. If youre accurate, people will come to know a lot about you. They will eventually say that they want to see what you can offer them. Often, people with lots of experience say that they can see a lot of good information from spiritual advisers.

The highest paid readings are tarot card readings. People say that when they are focused around love, they tend to get really good. Men and women often say that when they give a tarot reading, they often charge $5.00 a question. Tarot card masters say that their readings are highly accurate and often focus on love and romance. People today want to get their facts right. When it comes to our spirituality, there is nothing better than getting a reading that we can call accurate. Most readings today are so accurate that people wonder how a psychic got their information to begin with.

Clairvoyant readings tend to be good as well. Many clairvoyants get paid well over $300.0 a reading. These readers are often hard to find. It is even harder to get one that is accurate. They simply use their sixth sense when they speak to their clients. They have a 50/50 chance of getting their message correct. A lot of spiritual advisers say that they get a good return on their investment. Life can be tough to handle at times because of the drama that is often put on our lives.

If you want to get paid higher, try getting yourself in the media. Many television psychics get paid over $300.00 for a 20 minute reading. This is mainly due to the fact that millions of people are watching them every single week and often want to get a reading by them. It is all about supply and demand. If you have 100 people that want to speak with you, you cannot possibly read them all. Therefore you raise your price so that only the wealthiest people get to speak with you concerning their life.

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A psychics reading can help you to see far into the past. You can often see past lives and the past of ones romance life. If you want to get a psychic reading, make sure that its with someone that is reputable. Good psychic readers often have a 10 star rating in their feedback. They often take on new challenges and help people to grow over time.

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Psychic Age Depends On Experience

By Linda Perryville

Before the dawn of the Internet, finding psychics was a hassle. You had to get a telephone book, dial hundreds of numbers and look for anyone who was available. The problem with this method was you had to spend some money on calls and it was hard to find even a decent one since you didnt have a preview of who the psychic was. When you finally found one, you had to walk, drive or fly the distance to get there. What makes this even more baffling is it gets you worried if the psychic you chose was even worth it. What if the psychic was a crazy old man who smokes pipes and chants nonsense? What if the psychics address was outdated and you ended up going to an empty house or apartment?

When considering this, the average age range for most psychics goes from 25 years old to 60 years old. An exception to these is the truly gifted psychic ages from 7 years old to 13 years old. Sometimes, the bestowment of the psychic ability can vary from person to person. It may come early in life or late in life. This is where the average age can be determined from.

You can also preview the psychics profile online. You can check the profile of a psychic you want and you can see his or her achievements. How many years were they in the industry and what are the ups and downs theyve experienced? There is other vital info that gives you consideration for who youre going to pick. If youre curious to find out if the psychic has anything bad in their records, you have their profile to refer to.

As you are already aware, every person born in this world is blessed with some gift. Your inner voice might be God-gifted, something that has drawn you towards such situations or areas where intuition has been and will be a great help. Sometimes you believe that despite not receiving this intuitive power, you can handle the situation just perfectly as if you are blessed with it. This is something that you learn by exercising a lot of control over your nerves. These nerves that are directed through your brains often work in system. If mental order is maintained in a proper manner, these inner voice gifts can do wonders not only for self but for others too.

Age may matter, but even the youngest psychic has a better understanding than the oldest psychic. You just have to choose a clairvoyant or medium carefully. It may take a while because you have to consider their reputation, their experience and their results. It isnt just these factors that make the psychic considerable. It all comes down to the overall essence of the psychic. Does he or she have a factor that brings all of this together? But no matter what, always go for a psychic that can guide you to find the answers in life, whether they be young or old and are always there to help you every step of the way.

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People all over the world are looking for a free psychic online that is dependable. Our site has several good psychics to choose from. A psychic medium is there to help you convert to your dead relatives. There are several television clairvoyants that prove that life on the other side exists. The world wide web makes it easy to connect with our spiritual advisers all day long.

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