Security v Excitement

So many lament to me that they either seem to meet someone solid to date or someone exciting, elusive and erratic. It can seem like a standoff between a safety blanket versus wild chemistry. I have a strong opinion on this.

I simply do not believe in tradeoffs. In love, it does not have to be one or the other. Love knows no limited. You CAN have it all. If you find yourself dating either someone dull to you or someone exciting but unavailable, it is most likely that you’re simply not with your soulmate yet. Your soulmate will be someone with whom you have a solid relationship that remains exciting.

Here’s how to discern your best course to soulmate love:

1. If the exciting person you long for is not exhibiting similar enthusiasm for you, let go. Have faith that someone who is both fascinating and crazy over you is in your future. It’s much easier than banging your head against the wall of unavailability.

2. If you’re dating someone who seems solid, secure but a bit boring, don’t give up on it quite yet. Try doing some exciting things together, go deeper in conversation and then gage if the relationship feels dynamic. If it is, the jury should remain out. Sometimes as people open up, the excitement factor heightens.

3. Remember that you never have to settle – for either someone who is boring OR unavailable. Your soulmate will offer you a safe, secure relationship that is also exciting. Be willing to hold out for THAT person. (S)he will be worth the wait.

love,
Kathryn

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Thursday, April 21, 2011

Julian and Me - Antigua Sailing Week

Hi from Kathryn

Hi from Antigua where we are having a ball during the Classic Yacht and Sailing Week regattas! The beaches here are outrageously beautiful and those weve met live fascinating lives.

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How to Make 2011 YOUR YEAR for Love!

January 2011

Hi! Weve spending most of January and at least part of February in Jamaica, mon, and enjoying it! Right now, our all-inclusive resort has got us eating & doing too much, but its all fun and the weather cant be beat. Our eyebrows have all disappeared, and weve got tans, too.

Bringing on Love in 2011!

Are you determined that 2011 is the year you get your soulmate? Or at least hoping? There are ways to ENSURE that it is by doing some strong intention-setting and then backing that up with some changes.

1. Write down what you want in love. Get specific & do this with feeling. Decorate it, light a candle over this intention & bless it.

2. Send love to your One. This person you’re calling forth is out there now, living & breathing & looking for you, too. A soul call, an invitation to join you in your life, is quite powerful.

3. Get hopeful, eradicate blocks. You’re going to have to ensure that you’re open to love. If you’ve been cynical, find some faith that yes, you GET LOVE! (true) If you’re hanging on to a past love, let go into a vision of something better.

You have every hope for love and let’s get determined that this year is IT for you! I am with you.

We still have just a couple of spaces left in my FIRST EVER telecourse on love. Create-a-Mate entailed 4 classese by phone in February and March for the pupose of "creating" your mate. You ought to check it out just to get the incredible stories of people who have used this work to conjure up the love of their life!

Check it out here NOW to get in on it (its limited to just 50 people and about 45 spaces are already taken): www.kathrynalice.com/create-a-mate

We’ve Opened Enrollment for Our June 2011 Teacher Training

Our June 2011 Love Attraction Coach Training is now open for enrollment and quite a few of the spaces have been taken. This program gets more kudos than any other trainer training for its emphasis not only on schooling you in this magical material that has brought love to thousands but ALSO in making a career of it.

If you are looking for a fulfilling lucrative career that comes with setup, license and referrals, check out the training NOW. You can get an easy 5 payment program with a discount if you sign up before the end of January. Find out more here.

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Laissez Faire Dating

I took French in school and always loved the term laissez-faire, which means an attitude of letting things take their course. It’s not a bad principle to use in dating – to a point. The goal is to not date long but date well without stressing yourself out. Here are some do’s and don’ts for The Laissez-Faire Dating Strategy.

1. DO kick back and enjoy the ride. Rather than get anxious to immediately find the right person, it’s much more enjoyable to vow that you’ll have fun getting to know people with the faith that your One will show up.

2. DON’T force things. Don’t push. Don’t get desperate. Don’t over reach out. It’s critical not to try to make someone fit when they’re just not IT. And trying to force something that is not going never works. Worse, if you get desperate because your date’s response is underwhelming, you will literally push them away. Desperation repels.

3. DO let a relationship grow naturally. You cannot skip or even expedite the natural process of dating. And getting overanxious doesn’t help. As long as the relationship remains dynamic with both parties interested, you can trust that it will take care of itself. You don’t have to MAKE anything happen.

4. DO let things flow. If you turn in the direction where things are flowing, it’s the fastest path to your soulmate. Even if you have to pull back or wait a bit, your One is worth the wait. When their soulmate arrives, many are taken aback at how EASY things go.

5. DO limit how laissez-faire you get. Don’t just drift along for months or years, knowing it won’t work out or trying to make it fit when it’s not working. Abandon laissez-faire in favor of a DECISION so that you move on into something that’s right once you see it’s wrong. This is where you reach the limit of being laidback. And if you just take what comes your way for fear of being rejected, you probably have a pattern of settling, and this is where you’ll need to learn to be pro-active.

I bless you for easy dating!

love,
Kathryn

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3/31/11

Pirates of the Caribbean, St. Lucia Style

Hi from St. Lucia! Weve had a lovely month here and are just about to hop to our NEXT island, Antigua. I have to say that spending the winter in the Caribbean has been amazing.

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